It has been my observation that bible believing christians (especially younger adults) have major issues with respects to getting married. I would assume mostly because having sex (after not having sex the whole time) is going to be the highlight of their life--so they tend to rush into marriage (marrying young, and without necessarily dating for a significant amount of time). Also, I have noticed some guys (and I would assume women do this too) playing the whole "this is God's will" card (somehow convincing their significant other that god told him the two of them are meant to be together forever), in order to get the person of their choosing into (the marriage) bed--which in my opinion is just as bad a hood-wink as the gospel itself. Have you observed similar trends? Has this aspect of christianity affected your life?
Religion had nothing to do with either of mine and they were only wrong in hindsight. Ignorance is bliss eh? I saw the following in a web comic, I wish I could remember which one. "When you're wearing rose colored glasses, red flags just look like...flags."
Well, the wrong person is not the issue, I'm happily married for 41 years, but before our marriage we decided to go to live together. We were colleagues and it was much more practical to live in one house. We wanted to share our lives and ……… yes indeed, it made sex easier too. So, we found ourselves an apartment and we told our parents our decision.
My mother in law was okay with that, but my father, being a principal conservative Christian, not so much. As I was 22 years old, I was legally mature (that was at 21 at that time) accepted that he had no saying about my actions anymore, so, behind my back he went to my girlfriend's mother to try to convince her to not give her daughter permission for this for him unacceptable decision of us (my wife was 18 at that time and not legally an adult). He failed and my mother in law told about his action later. My father was a man of principles, that's clear enough. He had to accept what we did, but he told us that he would never visit us in our home as long as we were not married. I am sure that he would have paid for an instant marriage if we would have agreed. But we decided to build our own future together. Visiting my parents always meant, sleeping in separate rooms.
And yes, I understand that a lot of youngsters have forcefully decided to marry without sufficient preparation not only in the Netherlands but also in other Christian societies, just because the community pressure was too big, but also get rid of the pressure of home and marry to gain maturity that way. That must have cost a lot of youngsters their marriage later.
Definitely. I only married my abusive ex because I thought "God" was making me do it, due to a "vision." But it turned out, my ex was "praying" for that, so he actually caused the vision to happen to me. It wasn't God, it was his own energy, and my silly religious beliefs.
MVSS-O had this with her first husband (a controlling arse if ever there was one), not only did he, and therefore she, subscribe to the whole Man is head of Woman thing, but when she ditched him parts of HER family came round to exorcise her demons so she'd return to the prick.
Something of the sort happened to my older sister. she went on a couple of dates with a guy from our church, and on the second or third date he told her that he had a dream involving god or an angel telling him that he needs to marry my sister. My sister retold us the dream and also told one of her friends. Turns out, he had used the same dream strategy on that girl as well. My sister did not go on any more dates with him.
My mother married the day after graduating high school to get the hell out of her one horse town and alcoholic family. The Catholicism that she and my father shared had a lot to do with it, because you can't shack up with someone unless you're married. (They got as far as breaking the sex-before-marriage barrier but no further.)