When you are feeling down, lonely, unwanted...
remember, LOVE YOU for who you are, for what you do and for what brings you happiness and enjoyment!
I have found that when I ignore somthing that’s bothering me, like a friend died, or the loss of a family, I develop unconscious tendencies of self harm and neglect. I know not to hurt or neglect myself, but if I don’t face my concerns, I’m not even aware of the fact I’m doing it. Don’t wallo in the muck of dispair, but ignore it at your own peril.
I do not allow myself the indulgence/ waste of time(life!) of self-pity. If anyone on this planet has a right to wallow in that muck, it is probably me, but I prefer to tell myself to "suck it up, butter cup", and focus on making things great, immediately.
The past cannot be changed one iota by tears or regret.