This site appears to have people from all walks of life and all over the globe. Do you regularly check a profile for possible cultural/ language differences before making a judgment about their post/ comment?
I like the idea of hoping for the best in people, especially on sites or in groups of like-minded people. There will always be haters, and I choose to ignore their mean spirited interjections, but when it comes to responding to the posts of others, I aim to be helpful by sharing my experiences or my perspective rather than offering criticism for itβs own sake.
That said, sarcasm and snark can be useful tools when not wielded with malicious intent.
No, but it is a good idea. I tend to type in haste then find I have upset someone, sometimes that is because they have not read properly, but often it is just because I wrote in haste. (But then I have the attention span of a mayfly, so people maybe should make allowance for that. Joke.)
Not really. As suggested in another reply, it might be the wise thing to do, and maybe that's why I don't do it that often. I do note when some people are just trolling and it's taken some adjustment to learn not to feed them, but generally a lot of people on the site have been cool and it's enough for me to simply enjoy the dialogs.
I am trying to look for interesting discussions and ideas. I have a few friends that are deep thinkers, but even though I know the statistics it always surprises me how difficult it is to find people who go more than one level deep in looking at the world.
So, no, I rarely look at a profile first. But I did look at yours. Unfortunately I could not come up with a snarky comment about Decatur. However, if you were from Indiana, there is a great Mike Royco quote I often use.
I can come up with plenty of snarky comments about Decatur, but alas, there's no place like home.
I do now. Sometimes posts are serious and sometimes they are meant to be humorous and its good to get to know people a little more than the first impression off of a post or response.
I very much agree with you. It's an autopilot type of thing for me I guess, perhaps stemming from spending time with and learning about people from other cultures, and knowing how easily words can be misunderstood, even when spoken in the same language. I do it more so, admittedly, when I find myself in disagreement. I'm going to give due diligence and see if I may be misunderstanding something before taking a stand against it. I'm still in the newbie observer phase in this community, but I have noticed some that may benefit from a bit more due diligence in regards to understanding where someone may be coming from. But not the trolls. Be gone with them.
Yup
I never pounce, though.
@Donotbelieve Even if your prey is really good looking and worth catching?
@Petter My hands are full with an incredibly handsome and intelligent guy.
No need to pounce.
I read the post and if it interests me, or I have a point of view on the topic, I reply. I only rarely look at anyone's bio and already know the regular contributorsβ backgrounds. You can easily spot the non-native English speakers, and I do adjust my response to them to accommodate their lack of complete understanding of English.
I last dated a woman from Texas I met on this site. I looked up a few pictures and read her bio, but honestly I would have met up with her without reading it. I'm probably too trusting of people, if I'm honest but I'll meet up with anyone if they seem fun.
yes, it's one of the many lessons I have learned, I used to dive in, now I get my toes wet slowly
I've become a bit of a profile junkie.
Yes, I would if I felt it was necessary to check first.
I'm a bit of a profile junkie as well.