I miss the community and 'pause to think about being a better person' aspects of church, even if I don't miss the god part. Do church-like humanist groups exist?
I would never do a church like meetup, that sounds horrifying. There are meetups for non believers and skeptics in my area. We go to breakfast, or lunch, some members host potlucks in their homes. The people are interesting, and the conversations are engaging. I'm enjoying them and meeting new people.
I meet with a local freethinkers group that gathers frequently, there is a monthly volunteer opportunity to assist homeless folks in our downtown park (in honesty, I have not yet been able to attend, but plan to). Its a very vibrant and active group representing a wide range of ages and backgrounds. If you can find such a local group, I highly reccommend it!
There are folks who just want come for the drinks. There are a few who only want to argue or attack anything vaguely religious. There'll be one young woman acting a fool. There will be one young man acting sad/paranoid/nervous. It will be loud. Too many will be smoking.
They tip well.
My local atheist meetup is heavy on old white guys who want to argue about stuff. But also includes some 30-something folks who have become very good friends. Often, a casual meet up is planned with a book or question or topic to get the conversation rolling.
A couple of my friends went to a non-religious “church” service, held in an actual church. They found it weird. They sang pop songs and there was some kind of “sermon” but I don’t remember what about.