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Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views?

Is it possible to fall in love with someone with opposing political views? I was asked this question today and found it rather difficult to answer and dependent upon the definition of 'love'.

Grumpy 5 Nov 22
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There is no love in politics lol!

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No. I want a man who shares my values.

Carville & Matlin have 2 children and she talks down to him like an errant little boy. ...politics makes strange bedfellows. ...spies sleep with the enemy. ...it's a political skill....Cokie&Steve Roberts Huey Long Catholic and Jewish reporter lead parallel xmas&hannukka lives. ...we all get what we want from who agrees to love

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I think it's possible, but it depends on how important political views are to you. Can you discuss politics with someone with an opposing viewpoint calmly even if you don't agree? If you are die-hard and passionate about certain viewpoints and stances that they don't agree with, can you agree to disagree and not harbor resentment? I think it depends on how you both feel about politics and if it will be a point of contention. You have to let the political views be second to your relationship. I do think this is possible. If there is someone you have in mind right now, think about all the qualities you like and dislike. Do the pros outweigh the cons and can you live with the negatives (there will always be negatives because no one is perfect)?

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Possible? Yes. Likely to last? From my experience, sadly no.

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I started really liking someone and when I realized they were not on my side it kinda messed with my feelings. I say NO. We simply didn't think alike.

I have been betrayed so many times by xian women who married my bed not my head

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I'm sure I could never do it. Love has to include similar value systems.

The closer to the cutting edge of history we get POLITICS MAKES STRANGE BEDFELLOWS...this shutdown may yield Medicare4ALL if Pelosi can give up her bribes from insurance CEOs...she just lost her free ride to NATO hq in Belgium playing bluff with billionaire TrumpOLINI.....yes kids are dying on the border AND ALL 45 PRESIDENTS are racists to us Cherokee....Hoover Vice President was for decades called "injun" in Congress his DADDY British and mama KAW TRIBE....HOOVER & MRS HOOVER played Quaker missionaries while stealing gold by the boatloads for BRITISH....people sleep for money where the money is

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I know of a staunch Republican and a staunch democrat who have been married for 48 years so I supposed so.

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Fall in love, maybe. Have a long-term meaningful relationship, I doubt it. But, it depends upon the gap between your views, how strongly each person holds their views, why they hold their views, and other factors. If I wanted to find someone who shares my political views closely and was female, my target market would consist of only .0003% of the world's population. Or, in the U.S.A., only about .01% of the population. Of course, if I wanted it bad enough, I know where to find some...

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If one's definition of love doesn't include (political) values, then yes of course.

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It's possible to be romantically attracted to anyone with whom you have that base-level chemistry. But once that starts to fizzle and reality settles in, I think that for the most part, you have to be bound by similar values and ethics—morals, if you will. Political affiliation used to not be so closely aligned with core values. In fact, there was a time when the only difference between Republicans and Democrats was that the former were more fiscally conservative—it was just business. Times have indeed changed.

I suppose it's possible to spend a life with someone, as long as you were in a highly traditional, gender-roled marriage in which the little missus kept her mouth shut about such things and voted the way her husband voted, regardless of how she felt about it. But for couples who marry because they love each other ...?

I don't see how it would be possible for me to love someone who chortled and thumbs-upped after a seven-year-old Guatemalan child died in U.S. custody. Or who championed illegal, destructive, racist behavior by the leaders of our land.

I've always felt for a couple to last, they must have a similar value base. It will affect every part of their lives.

Margaret Sanger married a baptist businessman he just adored her and paid for her plane tickets building up PLANNED PARENTHOOD INTERNATIONAL....she belonged to American Atheists the day she died and she drank champagne in her deathbed when Bill Baird won of his cases

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I think you can. And may open to a debate for when the couple is bored. Just remember what is most important... and a debate mustn't have a winner.

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There are people that are able to do this. My worldveiw and values are demonstrated in the political values I have. I guess for some people that are not as passionate, it would be fine. I think the increasing polarization over the "New Guy." and crew makes it more difficult to be with someone that has opposing poltics.

I am as passionatr with the world conditon as i am making love and the coup is having both

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Not for me. I am committed to social justice, equality, and end to misogyny, racism, homophobia, inter alia. Anyone who does not share those values simply will not register for me.

Well put ... we have our neebs but sometimes there is a greater calling

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It's possible to fall in love with anyone. Can it be sustained if there is stark differences in religious, political, cultura, agel or language differences? I have seen relationships work with these differences, but it takes a lot of give and take, understanding and acceptance to overlook these chasms. In other words, both people have to be equally in love with each other and able to find commonalities in other areas as well as joy in each other's company. I would say that your starting the relationship with a handicap and that few can survive, but it's not impossible. One need look no further than Kellyanne Conway, Trump's most loyal supporter and her husband, who lambasts Trump on social media on a regular basis.

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Yes why not

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I guess one can FALL in love, but, maybe not STAY in love. especially if one has very strong points of views, one way or another. just my opinion.

Keech Level 5 Jan 1, 2019
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For me I'm pretty sure the answer is NO. I consider political views to be a deal maker or breaker.

Some of my best friends are Republicans (not really - while it isn't a friendship deal breaker it does make it much harder. ) but I sure as hell wouldn't be able to marry one.

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Not sure. Depends on if the person it tolerant or not of opposing viewpoints. For me, yes, For close minded folks, not so much. Just depends on your vantage point 🙂

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I not sure theres an easy answer, ive dated several women with dissimilar postions but not tadical differences. I do know i was rather involved sexually with a conservative gal and we decided no politics but that was the start of trumpitis..... after 6-8 months i started sitting on my hands. I very honest snd direct and i could no longer hold my tongue ..... ironic as she loved oral pleasure but the tension kept building up and we lost each other as lovers snd friends. In spite of the news it was a loss

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Politics lol you can't really tell between them. The same. Just focus if he/she has big ones.

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Depends on how serious you both are about politics . I want to say yes that it is possile but results may very because everyone is different .

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Yes wrong religion,wrong race, wrong ethics and wrong politics

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Well, I did, but his binge drinking has taken care of that !

You still hanging in there?

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Paula Abdul: Opposites Attract!

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I would consider it unthinkable to be with someone who supports Trump and all his conman ways, so my answer would probably be no. I couldn’t deal with the ignorance

TrumpOLINI deserves all our scorn HE IS A tiny fingered tiny penis tangerine Shitgibbon but our nation is under attack by billionaires and illegal aliens ....I am just one of thousands of victims of illegal aliens crimes destroying my truck and home....who will fall in love with a homeless American Atheists leader with 2 service cats in the dead of winter in Iowa where I was born ? The illegal aliens have my home job and police protection ruled by RethuglicanRepublocrats HORRY and CHARLESTON COUNTIES building tourist high rise condos busting unions paying half union wages....

@GreenAtheist I gather you don't like the Narcissus in Chief, the man with no plan except to back those billionaires with a tax cut that only benefits them.

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