Most likely the labels are beginning to show their inadequacy. The truth is that sexuality is a continuum; therefore, the question becomes: where does heterosexuality ends, where bisexuality starts, where bisexuality ends, where homosexuality starts. Do we really need to define ourselves before, during, or after a sexual encounter? Let’s just enjoy the intimacy as it comes.

Denial aint a river in Egypt. How someone identifies themselves publicly, is not always the way they would define themselves privately.

Why define yourself or another person. Putting a label on something or someone places an identity that may not really define them. Most labels I know of tell more of the person doing the labeling than the person labeled.

I can't help you... you are on your own there.

I believe you are describing "being on the down low."

It must. Never really thought about it until my wife announced to me she changed her sexuality. Produced the most confusing thing I have ever had to comprehend. After 10 years together, had no clue. It has turned our divorce into an inconprehesible mess.