Do ya'll think a religious person can date an atheist one???
Like, could them ever spend their entire lives together?
I'm not going against secularism but i wanna know if you think they really can build a solid relationship while being so divergent.
Either it's a wife/husband or family members or a friends relationship, i think one day it might break.
My first husband (I consider an idiot) was a Catholic who punched me in the mouth 3 months after we were married, we lived together for 1 yr and he did nothing like that. I told him if he ever touched me again I would have him killed. I worked with gas station guys. One pumped gas with a cig hanging out of his mouth, I'd yell at him the fumes are coming out while the gas is going in you're going to blow us all up. He said "I was in 'Nam got shot in the back ran to the medics holding my intestines so I don't give a flying fk about dying". I worked with THOSE kinds of people. Husband was scared, only lasted 2 kids & 6 yrs. His mom dressed my kids up and I think she baptized them both one day. If it made her feel good I didn't GAS. But I was ticked off for along time. I hated her after that. Never spoke to her again.
Kinda just depends on the strength of the beliefs. A person with extremely strong religious beliefs will not be able to maintain a happy long term relationship with an anti-theist; however, a mildly religious live-and-let-live religious person with the same type of atheist will have the same odds as everyone else.
I say enjoy the relationship while it lasts and walk away when it's over before you learn to hate each other.
It really depends on the people involved, If the religious person in question is a liberal Christian, it may not be a problem, as they have a less literal approach to the Bible and are more accepting in their views. A fundamentalist Christian, on the other hand will be trying to convert you so you don't go to Hell.
When i was a believer I dated an atheist...we conversed quite well because we were both, and still are, Socialists... only thing that changed is now I'm a godless communist... lol
We're still friends because it's not the minor things of life that matter in intellectual conversation....
My wife and I have been married for almost 44 years. She is religous and goes to church almost every Sunday. I’m a strong atheist and have very rarely attended church and then only to appease the family. We have agreed not to discuss religion. She raised the children in the church and I am the only atheist in the family.
Bit of a difficult one there I wouldn't be prepared to compromise where bringing up any children are involved, I could only accept teaching/indoctrinating my children to think for themselves and certainly would not want them to suffer any kind of religious indoctrination at any time whatsoever.
Really it would be a real problem for me no matter how much I thought of someone, I'm sure there are some that could manage this problem and stay together, I don't think I could.
It depends on the religion and its intrusiveness into the relationship itself. My late / prior wife was what I'd characterize as a relatively liberal evangelical, and I deconverted later in our marriage ... it presented exactly zero problem to our relationship because it was based on common interests and mutual respect, not on our religious beliefs. Also our life was not consumed by church.
it depends on how religious and what the religion is. my guy has a vague belief in some kind of god, but he hasn't built his life around it. he doesn't even know much about judaism, the religion of the culture into which both of us were born, his family probably being slightly more religious than my very secular one. i know a lot more about it than he does; he's never opened a bible. he goes to shul on the high holy days and when his dead parents' names are read on their yahrzeits (death anniversaries) but on a daily basis, god just doesn't enter into the picture, nor does any other part of the religion except his not wanting to eat pork, which is certainly not a dealbreaker in a romantic relationship. we have a friend who is evangelical. she won't take a job, buy a car or make a move of any kind without consulting with jesus. a person like that and an atheist might find it hard to connect romantically; it's hard enough to connect as friends!
I know couples where one partner is an atheist and the other is a believer. I remember growing up that our neighbours across the street were like that. She went to church and sang in the choir every Sunday and he played golf. They had a and happy marriage that only ended when he passed away (with no funeral service).