If found that sex isn’t as important to me as it was when I was younger. I tend to only have sex with someone with whom I have some kind of intimate social relationship.

Attractive or not, I am not into hook ups. I don’t care for sex; I much rather make love, and because of that, yes, I am pickier now. I want someone I can admire and feel the satisfaction of being with her at all times, not just during intimate moments.

Yes, I'm pickier. I'm not sure when that happened, but since 30 anyway. And no, I wouldn't have sex with an unattractive woman.

No . I'm a total nightmare to my past according to with who I would sleep with . I'm safe about it , & I prefer women , but if your Atheist or Agnostic , & available , that's it . Checkout my Bio here on Agnostic . BTW , I love New England !

Sex is all about attraction. I think that one grows more selective with age. This is actually a counter intuitive conclusion and it may be a projection. I know that this is the case with me.

I would gently turn it down.

I have to be attracted to someone. sex is a great experience and I don't get all the stigma about it. if it feels good and you aren't hurting anyone then do it I think.

Experience can be expensive ????

The important information here is defining our term "attractive". Are we using conventional advertising airbrushed attractive? Or having discernable personality traits attractive? You see where I am going with this. The interesting discussion for me is the concept of hookups. If it is only about getting sexual satisfaction for the moment in the moment then attractive equals what I call sexy, available, willing and clean (so to speak) or clean enough anyway. I am not in the hookup stage of life any longer something I am enormously comfortable with. I am less willing to express sexual attraction unless it feels connected to other feelings of attraction. That takes time and shared experiences.

I'm way pickier than I was when younger. I wasn't raised to take any agency for myself, so when younger I tended to go out with whoever asked me to go out. Now I want to know more about people up front, and I have much higher standards - for instance, I will not go out with a believer or a Trump supporter. We're just not compatible.

Physical appearance is a non issue for me, though I certainly decline for other reasons, but then I always have even when well under 30.

Personally I have always been highly selective and have never been able to lower my standards. It's been a running joke with all of my friends, so of which are the atypical "dog" types that will hook up with anything with a pulse. I'd rather go without than to hook up with someone I personally find unattractive (physically and mentally). I don't find myself becoming more picky as I get older but my tolerance level for annoying people has definitely shot through the roof! With age I have zero patience for the "game" of hooking up, or the effort involved with the 2am booty call.

I've never been interested in anyone I've not been interested in. So, no. And I've had quite a few opportunities (when I was younger) and a couple of those were gorgeous, but I want the relationship. I want 'her'. If that makes sense.

I have have always been somewhat picky I suppose.

No. I have too much respect for women. I have to be attracted to or develop an attraction in order to have sex with someone.

I am a gay male. And, I have definitely gotten pickier as I have gotten older.

The older I get the more I find people attractive because of who they are, not what they look like. Even if the most attractive man or woman told me they wanted to have sex, if I didn't like that person I'd turn them down.

When I was younger I had copius amounts of sex. Being in the army at a young age and traveling around the world exposed me to all sorts of different cultures and norms when it came to sex, so I took full advantage of my looks and position to indulge, no matter what she looked like. NOW that I am older and a little wiser, I find myself attracted to her mind more so than her looks. I DO NOT make the first move anymore, this way I can see and hear what I am involving myself in. This approach has worked WONDERS for me. I am so much happier with my choice of partners now and my relationships last longer. Looks don't matter, intelligence does.

Had a better selection to choose from when I was young and still say no more than I say yes but have a healthy appetite so more willing to give something a try, you never know they may surprise you and the pickings are slim where I live.

Hell I've even had a one night stand with a travelling salesman, how cliched can you get. Dead fussy about who gets seconds though.

Dang! So I am probably going to sound old fashioned, but I am not the typical guy I suppose. I am pickier about women. I am more interested in my ability to talk to her than what she looks like. Although I won't say that looks don't mean anything to me. Having said that, I am not quick to jump in bed with someone. First meet, I would be inclined to say no regardless of how she looks. Of course, I have not been put in that situation yet. So maybe that has a lot to do with it. I don't necessarily feel comfortable with a women who wants sex before anything else. If that makes sense.

There's a saying. if she's a lady treat her like a lady if not fuck her. obviously, that goes both ways. there's nothing wrong with adults having fuck buddies or very short flings but the emphasis would be just on how attractive they were really. it's not my ideal situation as I prefer much longer deeper relationships which means trust, respect, caring, intelligence and things in common and best friends to me and more I can't think of. I have to be attracted to the outside however and sometimes that isn't instant though you are drawn for other reasons as well as sex.thats just my opinion. I've had one night stands right threw to 14 years but the one-offs were when I was young so I guess I am more picky. I would rather be on my own than with the wrong person hence being on my own.

I would like to believe I am less easy now compared to the past.

No. Sex is not a hobby. I need a real connection for the sex to be any good. When I masturbate I prefer to be alone. Thanks but no thanks. I kinda wish I had to turn more down more often b/c it is nice to be appreciated.

I only want to have sex with women I love. My standards like you said.

I was picky then and I’m picky now.

I've never had sex with someone I wasn't attracted to.