When I was younger I had copius amounts of sex. Being in the army at a young age and traveling around the world exposed me to all sorts of different cultures and norms when it came to sex, so I took full advantage of my looks and position to indulge, no matter what she looked like. NOW that I am older and a little wiser, I find myself attracted to her mind more so than her looks. I DO NOT make the first move anymore, this way I can see and hear what I am involving myself in. This approach has worked WONDERS for me. I am so much happier with my choice of partners now and my relationships last longer. Looks don't matter, intelligence does.

The older I get the more I find people attractive because of who they are, not what they look like. Even if the most attractive man or woman told me they wanted to have sex, if I didn't like that person I'd turn them down.

I am a gay male. And, I have definitely gotten pickier as I have gotten older.

No. I have too much respect for women. I have to be attracted to or develop an attraction in order to have sex with someone.

I have have always been somewhat picky I suppose.

I've never been interested in anyone I've not been interested in. So, no. And I've had quite a few opportunities (when I was younger) and a couple of those were gorgeous, but I want the relationship. I want 'her'. If that makes sense.

Personally I have always been highly selective and have never been able to lower my standards. It's been a running joke with all of my friends, so of which are the atypical "dog" types that will hook up with anything with a pulse. I'd rather go without than to hook up with someone I personally find unattractive (physically and mentally). I don't find myself becoming more picky as I get older but my tolerance level for annoying people has definitely shot through the roof! With age I have zero patience for the "game" of hooking up, or the effort involved with the 2am booty call.

Physical appearance is a non issue for me, though I certainly decline for other reasons, but then I always have even when well under 30.

I'm way pickier than I was when younger. I wasn't raised to take any agency for myself, so when younger I tended to go out with whoever asked me to go out. Now I want to know more about people up front, and I have much higher standards - for instance, I will not go out with a believer or a Trump supporter. We're just not compatible.

The important information here is defining our term "attractive". Are we using conventional advertising airbrushed attractive? Or having discernable personality traits attractive? You see where I am going with this. The interesting discussion for me is the concept of hookups. If it is only about getting sexual satisfaction for the moment in the moment then attractive equals what I call sexy, available, willing and clean (so to speak) or clean enough anyway. I am not in the hookup stage of life any longer something I am enormously comfortable with. I am less willing to express sexual attraction unless it feels connected to other feelings of attraction. That takes time and shared experiences.

Experience can be expensive ????

I have to be attracted to someone. sex is a great experience and I don't get all the stigma about it. if it feels good and you aren't hurting anyone then do it I think.

Sex is all about attraction. I think that one grows more selective with age. This is actually a counter intuitive conclusion and it may be a projection. I know that this is the case with me.

I would gently turn it down.

No . I'm a total nightmare to my past according to with who I would sleep with . I'm safe about it , & I prefer women , but if your Atheist or Agnostic , & available , that's it . Checkout my Bio here on Agnostic . BTW , I love New England !

Yes, I'm pickier. I'm not sure when that happened, but since 30 anyway. And no, I wouldn't have sex with an unattractive woman.

Attractive or not, I am not into hook ups. I don’t care for sex; I much rather make love, and because of that, yes, I am pickier now. I want someone I can admire and feel the satisfaction of being with her at all times, not just during intimate moments.

If found that sex isn’t as important to me as it was when I was younger. I tend to only have sex with someone with whom I have some kind of intimate social relationship.