Maybe I take things too personal, but in the past, I’ve actually cursed people out and came close to getting into a fist fight when I found out they were doing that sh*t. I do understand that some testing is called for, but for the most part, I just feel that people are playing games when they do that.
I've come across a couple of posts that the member already knew the correct answers and ask a question just to show another member up. Or ask a sensitive question to intise a riot between the members just to get points. You got to ask yourself if answering some of those questions can get you a negative response? To make it where it would cause another member to get overheated and they write something ugly to your reply. I say live and learn. I have learned...
Not sure what you mean by "testing" or what the context is.
If I'm being tested by someone who knows me well, or more commonly, when I am misunderstood or ascribed nefarious motives by someone who should know better, THAT will honk me off. Although often it simply reflects their fears / operant conditioning and can be very unconscious, it gets tiresome to put up with from people who you've proven yourself to many times over. It's like integrity buys you no elbow room at all. Sometimes I wish I hadn't bothered and had just been the selfish arse that I'm being accused of being. It would have made it easier for everyone concerned.
It doesn't stop with dating, it's done by longtime spouses, adult children, you name it. It just goes with being human I'm afraid.
Trust is most needed when it's hardest to give, unfortunately.
Frequently in days of yore, marriage never occurred until the woman had bourne the first child to prove that she could do the job.
I suspect that since the advent of the pill and Heffner's Playboy magazine, proof of effective pleasurable coitus became more important.
People are playing games when they do that. The problem is people will play games. Your anger is misplaced. Dogs sniff butts. Cat sniff fur and people play games. Getting to know you is a natural process. If you suspect that games are being played, ask the person outright if they are testing you and let them know that you don't appreciate the behavior.
Most cis women (even women like ME) "test" new boyfriend interests for mental soundness by breaking things off soon after the start of the romance, and paying attention to other males for awhile.
If her ex boyfriend goes ballistic, becomes violent, threatening, a stalker, or acts needy and clingy, she'll not return to him, and consider it missing a bullet.
If he takes it in good humor, casually sees others, yet still hangs around, being cheerful and charming when given the opportunity, she will likely eventually take him back.
In fact, skipping this "test" could be dangerous for women..especially women with a high percentage of male traits, who tend to "fall in love" like men do with women and become besotted, refusing to see faults in their male lovers.