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How to respond to those who say they will pray for you?

How do yall respond or feel about those who say to you, "I'll pray for you" or "you're in my prayers"? I understand that for that person, it's how they show that they care, but if they know that you are not religious, then are they being almost condescending?

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I say “Thanks”. No need to take offense at a kind gesture.

indirect76 Level 7 Dec 30, 2018

I think it's out of genuine kindness most of the time and I just say thank you. It's honestly not worth getting into it with anyone. If they want to believe in magic beings that will make things better then ok.
They're all kind of like little kids that refuse to believe that Santa is not real.

SheRa Level 3 Jan 4, 2019

Good point


"I will think for you"

Sunrise91 Level 4 Dec 28, 2018

I say “I wish you all the best too” and leave it at that. No interest in creating a conflict or a long drawn out situation.

Denker Level 7 Dec 29, 2018

Just say thank you and move on. It works for me.

Jeremy77 Level 5 Dec 29, 2018

I tell them: "Thanks, but I'm only accepting cash right now."

That's very good, will use that next time.


You say thanks and go on with your dailies.

JRon Level 2 Dec 29, 2018

"Thank you, I need all the help I can get" with just a pinch of humor and sarcasm full in the knowledge that their prayers are really for their own benefit.

MauiMike Level 5 Dec 28, 2018

I thank them for their interest and concern. But never for the prayers.

mordant Level 8 Dec 28, 2018

My standard comment is, thank you I appreciate your concern.

GbRu Level 4 Jan 2, 2019

I believe in each to their own and good intention, all good wishes would be welcome.

Kismeteer Level 5 Dec 31, 2018

You could just say "Thank you for your thoughts". Polite way to get your point across.

Yes, very polite and why would anyone make a big deal out of someone who wants only the best for you? It's their way of saying they care, not ours perhaps, but to make it a point of contention, I'm more inclined to just go with the flow. Gladwin is beautiful area. I live in Florida now, but retired from the Free Press...Moved here from the UP


Me: "Well, if it makes you feel any better, have at it, toots."

BlackDove Level 7 Dec 28, 2018

I am pretty sure who's caring versus who's pitying. Those who keep me in their prayers/are praying for me, I tell them, "Thanks." Those who pity me? I don't tell them anything, but I've heard my "f*ck you smile" speaks volumes. smile002.gif

(I ran into something a LOT more troublesome than simple prayers being thrown my direction.
After the death of my son, it was brought to my attention that a Mormon relative had baptized my son post mortem. Yeah, uhmmmm, hell NO! That crossed my fine-line between live & let live and WTF gives you the right to throw your WOO my son's direction. I no longer know that batshit crazy person, and his actions promoted my exit from that entire gene pool. You really can pick your religion & your family if you wish to do so.) smile001.gif


I agree. I mean, I get that they mean well, but at the same time, it definitely seems condescending. I just always say "Trust me, my mom has been praying for me my entire life. Must be a lost cause" Then you smile and walk away. Lol my little way of holding back


They are trying to be nice, I just let it slide.

Orbit Level 7 Dec 29, 2018

I like the old "You'll pray for me? Then I guess I'll have to think for you." response.


I thank them for the kind thoughts. It is usually how the people around me tell me they are hoping for the best.


I say thank you for thinking of me. It's something I just kinda ignore.


Please don't, I'm not into voodoo or witchcraft.


Your God does not care about whoever believes in him, imagine to me that I do not believe in God.

ylma Level 5 Jan 3, 2019

Inside my head the reply to anyone that says they will pray for me is a single old Anglo Saxon word followed by off, but I usually manage to confine those words to the inside of my head and more often than not say why on Earth would you do that?

iplova Level 3 Jan 2, 2019

I say don't bother I don't believe but thanks.

actofdog Level 8 Dec 31, 2018

Thanks. I'll take all the best wishes I can get.

xyz123 Level 7 Dec 29, 2018

I really have never felt that people who say they will pray for me are being condescending. People who say that for the most part do it out of a sense of compassion and a belief that they are being helpful. My response is, thanks! The people who who describe such people as "fools" are the one who are condescending.

Marktzu Level 5 Dec 28, 2018
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