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How to respond to those who say they will pray for you?

How do yall respond or feel about those who say to you, "I'll pray for you" or "you're in my prayers"? I understand that for that person, it's how they show that they care, but if they know that you are not religious, then are they being almost condescending?

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I say “Thanks”. No need to take offense at a kind gesture.

indirect76 Level 7 Dec 30, 2018
8

"I will think for you"

Sunrise91 Level 3 Dec 28, 2018
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I think it's out of genuine kindness most of the time and I just say thank you. It's honestly not worth getting into it with anyone. If they want to believe in magic beings that will make things better then ok.
They're all kind of like little kids that refuse to believe that Santa is not real.

SheRa Level 3 Jan 4, 2019

Good point

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I say “I wish you all the best too” and leave it at that. No interest in creating a conflict or a long drawn out situation.

Denker Level 7 Dec 29, 2018
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Just say thank you and move on. It works for me.

Jeremy77 Level 5 Dec 29, 2018
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I tell them: "Thanks, but I'm only accepting cash right now."

Super-Kid Level 3 Jan 2, 2019

That's very good, will use that next time.

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You say thanks and go on with your dailies.

JRon Level 2 Dec 29, 2018
5

"Thank you, I need all the help I can get" with just a pinch of humor and sarcasm full in the knowledge that their prayers are really for their own benefit.

MauiMike Level 5 Dec 28, 2018
5

I thank them for their interest and concern. But never for the prayers.

mordant Level 8 Dec 28, 2018
4

My standard comment is, thank you I appreciate your concern.

GbRu Level 4 Jan 2, 2019
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I believe in each to their own and good intention, all good wishes would be welcome.

Kismeteer Level 5 Dec 31, 2018
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You could just say "Thank you for your thoughts". Polite way to get your point across.

Lovemylife1 Level 6 Dec 29, 2018

Yes, very polite and why would anyone make a big deal out of someone who wants only the best for you? It's their way of saying they care, not ours perhaps, but to make it a point of contention, I'm more inclined to just go with the flow. Gladwin is beautiful area. I live in Florida now, but retired from the Free Press...Moved here from the UP

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Me: "Well, if it makes you feel any better, have at it, toots."

BlackDove Level 7 Dec 28, 2018
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I agree. I mean, I get that they mean well, but at the same time, it definitely seems condescending. I just always say "Trust me, my mom has been praying for me my entire life. Must be a lost cause" Then you smile and walk away. Lol my little way of holding back

Kayterade5348 Level 5 Dec 29, 2018
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They are trying to be nice, I just let it slide.

Orbit Level 7 Dec 29, 2018
3

I like the old "You'll pray for me? Then I guess I'll have to think for you." response.

NoMagicCookie Level 8 Dec 28, 2018
3

I thank them for the kind thoughts. It is usually how the people around me tell me they are hoping for the best.

angelashupe Level 4 Dec 28, 2018
3

I say thank you for thinking of me. It's something I just kinda ignore.

Marysmihula Level 4 Dec 28, 2018
2

Your God does not care about whoever believes in him, imagine to me that I do not believe in God.

ylma Level 4 Jan 3, 2019
2

Inside my head the reply to anyone that says they will pray for me is a single old Anglo Saxon word followed by off, but I usually manage to confine those words to the inside of my head and more often than not say why on Earth would you do that?

iplova Level 3 Jan 2, 2019
2

I say don't bother I don't believe but thanks.

actofdog Level 8 Dec 31, 2018
2

Thanks. I'll take all the best wishes I can get.

xyz123 Level 7 Dec 29, 2018
2

I really have never felt that people who say they will pray for me are being condescending. People who say that for the most part do it out of a sense of compassion and a belief that they are being helpful. My response is, thanks! The people who who describe such people as "fools" are the one who are condescending.

Marktzu Level 5 Dec 28, 2018
2

I used to be deeply offended whenever I came to someone with a problem and they said that they would pray for me. To me, an atheist at the time, the gesture seemed empty. I didn't understand why that's all they could do.
A few years ago, however, I realized why I shouldn't be offended by these words. To someone who believes in God, and believes in the power of prayer, that is the most meaningful thing they can do for you. There is no condescension whatsoever, although it can sound like that sometimes. They just want you to know that they care about you deeply, and that they are asking God -- an entity which they believe can fix all problems -- to be there for you. It doesn't make sense to people who don't believe in a higher power, and that is understandable. But (in my opinion) there is no reason to be offended when someone is giving you their love, and an "I'll pray for you" is best met with a "Thank you," whether you agree with it completely or not smile001.gif

LizMacy Level 1 Dec 28, 2018
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"I'll pray for you"
"Will you? I'll tell my rainbow hedgehog unicorn about you too, oh sorry he doesn't exist...either."

LenHazell53 Level 8 Dec 28, 2018
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