One of the lowest points, sexually, in my marriage, was after I was injured in a car wreck. sex hurt. But my ex still insisted on me doing my wifely duty, so I would grit my teeth and go along with it. Sometimes, the pain would be enough to make me cry. You know how there are certain reactions a man has during sex that let you know he's really turned on by something? My crying really turned him on. That was the beginning of the end for the relationship. And it only got worse from there.

Kissing is very important to me. Once, I was making out with a guy who had a 5:00... it wasn’t so much a shadow as it was a cheek full of pins that hurt like hell. His facial hair was thick strong and pointy. So painful. He also had a unexpectedly large, cavernous mouth... I am certain he could bite the heads off babies and just hold the heads in his mouth. It was all very odd. After 10 minutes I had to call it all off.

No trust and I'll just freeze up and count the minutes until it's over.

If I have to be the dominant one, it's not gonna be much fun for me. I'm in charge of everything in my life. In the bedroom, I want to be pushed around.

Disinterest in experimentation.

I wish i hadn’t read. Pretty sure I am doing it all wrong.

The wrong smell. If they don't smell right - nope. And I don't mean cause they stink. Though that would be a issue. I mean their own smell. I was astonished to find out other people aren't sniffing necks or behind ears as they hug the first time? Basic chemistry. (For me anyway). They either smell good or they don't.

There isn't much that can't be worked out between two reasonable human beings with brains. Though yes I did put "Kissing like a slug" on the do not fly list. (Thank you for the term).

I do know it's possible to be utterly opposite in the bedroom - but yup smell. That's a guide. Hmm but that's before the bedroom?

In the bedroom - hmm - not listening. Being distracted. Not being open to new experiences. Mostly consideration. Lack of consideration on either person's part is going to wreck it for me.

This was a great post! I've been commenting here and there, but this was a fun one!

Just 2 things really...if he doesn't pay attention to verbal or physical cues, and if he thinks the word no translates to "convince me". I'm pretty blunt, so if I say no, I'm not being dramatic lol.

• No variation in technique--or, alternately, changing the technique too soon.
• Not listening to me or taking me seriously when I say I'm too sensitive for that, do it slower/softer/not at all, I don't like that, that's not working, etc. (Could be immediate grounds for dismissal)
• Sustained, uninterrupted jackhammer
• Timidly refraining from trying things, doing things, asking for things; overwhelming, prohibitive hesitancy
• Over- reliance on some gimmicky move, especially when coupled with pointedly, expectantly looking to me for my reaction.
• Acting put out when I indicate a preference or ask for something. (No, I'm not going to act like you magically figured out everything I like--that's impossible and an asinine way to behave)
• Avoiding eye contact
• No speech or sounds--or, alternately, never shutting up
• Continuing to encourage me to do something you like that I've already said I'm not into
• You are not an oral surgeon and your tongue is not a medical instrument

Mostly it's attitude and interpersonal stuff relating to recognizing my agency, for me. If you're receptive and not inhibited by hang ups, we can probably talk through just about anything. If you're not receptive to talking things through, you're not for me.

when I was very young late teenager I was involved with an older woman (10 years older)she taught me a lot about how to please her and it also worked very well for me. Now that I'm old I even enjoy foreplay more because it takes more to arouse me now.I still have a strong sexual drive and I hope that does n go away.

Premature ejaculation or the opposite, unable to get or maintain an erection.

It’s a religious thing.

Kidding !!

we should find this interesting I'm looking forward to hearing the responses