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What's your biggest regret?

Mine is: Getting married, complete and total waste of time.

Redcupcoffee 7 Feb 27

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Not leaving "home" sooner. Not entering counceling/therapy sooner. Poor choices in a partner. I regret all 3 equally.

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Not giving my all in some aspects of my life.

d_day Level 7 Mar 5, 2018
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Registering as a republican when I was 18

wellllll

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They say marriage is an institution, but who wants to live in an institution?

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Not taking someone up on an offer to spend time in Kathmandu....

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I can agree with u on marriage is a waste of time. the stats on marriage and divorce are just crazy anymore. my biggest regret is probably spending 10 years of my life lookin for a woman that "isnt like that" as ppl would say. ive yet to find one that would fit the category "not all women are like that" even tho I do think there may be a couple out there. once I realized that for the most part they are all alike in almost every way my life got so much better. can treat them all the same way no matter how attracted I am to them now days cuz I don't care about impressing them at all so I never have that anxiety that comes with initiating conversation and tryin to keep from sayin things she might not like and on and on. the funny part about it is that once I quit tryin to do the things I was taught that women would love by a single mother and sister I found out that women don't actually like the good guy, they seem to love the jerk cuz once I started to ignore them, blow them off and not give them any unneeded attention at all they seem to approach me more than ever. the way men and women are is just crazy sometimes....lol

jorj Level 8 Feb 27, 2018
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Yup, getting married. Huge mistake

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I never had a truly lasting bond with another person. I have had 5 serious relationships from my late 20s to early 30s. No kids (don't know if that is a regret or a blessing). Oh and an inflated sense of self-worth (more accurate is how I looked at other people without the benefits I had.) Envy, jealousy--that kind of stuff. Life is really too long to be alone and too short to nit-pick.

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Stopping my academic career after I received my Masters. I should have continued my research and completed my Doctorate. I got sidetracked by travel. And a woman, if I’m going to be completely honest.....

so what u are really sayin u regret meeting that woman, right? lol just cuttin up with ya its never to late to go back to school they say. maybe u can still get that doctorate one day

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I fell asleep on the 3rd lap of the 1600 meters at the district meet in 1981. I was in 5th place and I pulled it out to get 2nd and a trip to the Regional meet. I should have smoked that guy who won but he earned it and I didn't... (P.S. I came in dead last at Regionals so it didn't matter, anyway ha ha!)

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Having to give up my daughter to my parents, when I was 17 and homeless. They kicked me out, but took her back in after months of us sleeping in allies.

She doesn’t care for me much. Says I never wanted her. They won’t admit that I tried for years to get her back, once I had gotten on my feet. She believes them.

Now that she’s had kids, we are a bit closer. But I’ll never have her love like I want.

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Not applying myself during my educational years at school/college/uni

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When my train came into the station, I was at the airport. I was shot at but missed. Shit at but hit. The light at the end of the tunnel was a train coming in the other direction. When you got to the fork in the road what went wrong. Ask Yogi on this one. When I took the fork in the road will I ever know what would have happened had I taken the other. That I always spoke my mind and never had to remember what I said to persons whom I should have. That I was as a fool for thinking that I could make a difference in a world of greedy and self imbued persons.
Only when you are a true believer in any personal endeavors along your path do you learn what is regret and how many others you have met and experienced your road and most importantly. That when you got knocked down how fast you got up and how much you learned.

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"I don't regret the things I've done, I regret the things I didn't do when I had the chance." somebody said that.

jeffy Level 7 Feb 27, 2018
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How long it took

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Not traveling abroad more before I had kids.

I don't regret getting married to my ex. We had 3 wonderful kids even though we couldn't make it work out.

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That it took me so long to wake up. I feel like I'm going through feelings and experiences in my 50's that so many usually go through in their 20's and 30's. I suppose that's better than never waking up at all.

Everybody feels as you do ...... ????

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I have no regrets. Everything in my past served to make me who I am right now. To regret anything in the past would be to regret a part of me. I love who I am, so how could I regret anything that helped make me this way?

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Not buying the '66 Barracuda from my 78 year-old neighbor when he offered to sell it to me. One owner car, driven not much more than around the City. I want that in my driveway. All the other fuckups in my life I can deal with, but I cannot get that car...

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My biggest meta-regret was imagining that my expectations of life would never be substantively violated. Which is a nice way of saying that I felt entitled to certain outcomes. A lot of that was religiously-mediated: I was god's special snowflake and he wouldn't fail to protect me, enlighten me, and just generally bless me and give me a leg up on those "others" who didn't believe "correctly". This led to all the poor decisions and resulting hilarity that represents my ACTUAL ... well, not regrets, exactly, but certainly disappointments. I was always true to the light I had at any point in time, so regrets? Not really. But disappointments, in spades.

To me a true regret is knowing what you SHOULD do, and not doing it anyway. At some level I knew that life is just stuff happening, is simply natural consequences and various amounts of good and bad luck. And I pretended it was otherwise, because I WANTED it to be what it wasn't. I DO regret THAT.

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Is that the legal and social statement thing? Or is it the emotional and sexual relationship part?

@Redcupcoffee I would not want to presume anything. If there is still a sense of bitterness I hope you resolve it some way. Nice to have made contact with you.

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choosing NOT to sleep with this NBA ball player when I had the chance!

@Redcupcoffee yeah... i wanted to soooooo bad ! but i was like, i am probably like # 1007 that has done this

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I really try not to live with regrets, however, try as I might I have too many to list. If I had to pick one it would be giving my youngest daughter to her father while I suffered a nervous breakdown. I feel she would be a totally different person if I would have brought her with me while I healed.

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I can't possibly time travel in my lifetime. I believe you never have to regret about anything in life coz at that moment what you have done was right to you and there are plenty of things beyond human comprehension.

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