Mine is: Getting married, complete and total waste of time.
How would I know? Next week I may have a different opinion. Even when I may had said... letting this woman go three months ago. And yesterday I may tell you... well, she is back in my life you know? I don't know next week what it will be... That job I declined, the woman I did not followed to the west coast, the ones left overseas? The one in the south? the one in the island? Those I ran away from? It is just decisions... No Regrets what so over. "Que Sera Sera, Whatever May Be, May Be". Just Live and Learn but No Regrets.... It is all a Good Ride to Enjoy.
Falling for the wrong woman. I fell madly in love with someone and thought she loved me as well. Turned out I was very wrong. Of course I did not find that out until after 6 years and a child.
< I regret not getting a bottle of scotch to go with this cigar.
It is not a waste of time if you learned something out of it. Granted the returns may not warrant the time dedicated but... Live and Learn.
I don't really have regrets , I saw my life as just learning - I am sure that I had them fleetingly after relationship break up s etc. at the time but they faded away -and were replaced by a new challenge' I married a right eejit but life was kind and he mostly stayed out of my life _ I think I had quite a big life (in my own terms as I was up for anything anyone proposed) - I'll be 70 shortly and still no regrets nothing left undone that I wanted to do - which is just as well really ,
In my teens, listening to what people told me about not being able to pursue my career choices
I'm in the same boat currently
It's tough to regret my marriage because the kids that resulted from that hellish nightmare are the most important thing in my life and my greatest accomplishments. I do regret having been stupid enough to stay as long as I did.
I regret rushing into a bad relationship shortly after my ex and I separated.
My biggest regret is not sticking with dance when I was 6. My mom pulled me out because I just wasn't good at it, but that moment created a major flaw in me and I never gave 100% again at anything. It caused me to give up at everything if I wasn't good at it and set me up for failure. I've since realized that was the critical moment in my life that dictated my personality and am trying to change it, but yeah.
@Redcupcoffee thank you. I'm now in taekwando and really bad at it lol. My physical condition has worsened to the point that I struggle a lot, but my Dojang is super supportive and help me to not lose my passion for it. I hope to stick with it!
I really try not to live with regrets, however, try as I might I have too many to list. If I had to pick one it would be giving my youngest daughter to her father while I suffered a nervous breakdown. I feel she would be a totally different person if I would have brought her with me while I healed.
Is that the legal and social statement thing? Or is it the emotional and sexual relationship part?
@Redcupcoffee I would not want to presume anything. If there is still a sense of bitterness I hope you resolve it some way. Nice to have made contact with you.
My biggest meta-regret was imagining that my expectations of life would never be substantively violated. Which is a nice way of saying that I felt entitled to certain outcomes. A lot of that was religiously-mediated: I was god's special snowflake and he wouldn't fail to protect me, enlighten me, and just generally bless me and give me a leg up on those "others" who didn't believe "correctly". This led to all the poor decisions and resulting hilarity that represents my ACTUAL ... well, not regrets, exactly, but certainly disappointments. I was always true to the light I had at any point in time, so regrets? Not really. But disappointments, in spades.
To me a true regret is knowing what you SHOULD do, and not doing it anyway. At some level I knew that life is just stuff happening, is simply natural consequences and various amounts of good and bad luck. And I pretended it was otherwise, because I WANTED it to be what it wasn't. I DO regret THAT.
Not buying the '66 Barracuda from my 78 year-old neighbor when he offered to sell it to me. One owner car, driven not much more than around the City. I want that in my driveway. All the other fuckups in my life I can deal with, but I cannot get that car...