A better question might be if you love a "normal" upper middle class blue/white collar person are you mentally ill or disabled?

Anyone can be loved regardless. Most people can feel love for others. (But not all!)

I don’t think you control who you fall in love with. The heart wants what the heart wants. But with that said some times love isn’t enough.

Ck out Borderline Personality Disorder. You can but it will cost you in pain and heartbreak. We been together 35 years and it's only gotten slightly better. In the meantime I lost me while cleaing up the trouble her illness causes and keeping body and soul together. I am at the end. Got maybe 15 years left and don't want to be doing this for another 15 years. On the other hand it breaks my heart that to have a life free fom stress and uproar and trouble I have to leave.