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What is Love?

I threw this question out on another post as an example of something I might ask. Then I thought, that's actually an interesting question and I wanted to see what others thought. Is Love purely glandular (the result of chemical excretion activating a programmed need to procreate and better increase the odds of individual and/or species survival)? And if it is, do you care?

To me, I don't care HOW it comes to being inside of my head, it's a real thing. A rock is made up of mostly empty space and yet it's real enough when I hit you in the forehead with it, so the science of atoms and sub atomic particles can take a back seat to the very immediate sensation that it makes moments after impact.

So, doubters and unbelievers, sound off. What do you think?



Love is an emotional dependance. One which, if denied, would hurt you massively. If you love someone, and they are suddenly and permanently removed from your life, you would find the experience massively traumatic. You would go through a period of intense grief.

That's love for close family members and close friends. Romantic love has other aspects to it, but ultimately with someone who would produce the same sense of loss if they stopped being part of your life.


What is love?

Its a song by Howard Jones from the 1980's smile007.gif

Great song! I loved Howard Jones!


Love is love

Lol, dude. That's a copout. That's like saying mac-and-cheese is mac-and-cheese, or a stank-ass sock is a stank-ass sock. What is it MADE of? Where does it originate? What is it to you? What you gave me is the same answer people use to answer the same question about God. God is God. Tells me nothing lol

@DobbinPitch lol


Love is tofu and I can prove it.

Tofu is nothing. It is only a vehicle for transporting borrowed flavors to your mouth. You know nothing, John Snow!

@DobbinPitch Love is a vehicle for transporting borrowed flavors to you

It is, apparently, Jon not John (!)

@CallMeDave Damn... got me on Jon. You're right, of course. And I've even read the books. I hang my head in shame lol


Baby don't hurt me!!

Was just going to say that!


I believe in love more than most earthly things. #allyouneedislove


Funny you should ask this question, since I started reading Fromm last night. Perhaps he holds some insights:


Short answer is I do not know. However, this does not stop me from having an opinion. I would suggest that it is a state of mind rather than an emotion. Think of someone you consider yourself to love, then think of a time, that this person made you angry. Whilst the emotion you were experiencing at the time was a negative one, you still love this person, and you loved that person at the same time you were angry with them. The best way to explain love is to adopt the following thought experiment.

Imagine someone that you consider yourself to be impartial to (you like them, but you don't love them), and then imagine being told that this person has passed away

Now do the same experiment again but this time with someone you do consider yourself to love. Notice the difference about how much worse it felt when the person you love was no longer going to be around. This is evidence for love, and a good way to identify it.

You can also do the experiment with a positive spin. Imagine someone you like (but don't love) had acheived something in their lives which made them extremely happy

Now imagine someone that you love acheived something in their lives which made them really happy. Again, notice how much happier you were when you thought about this happening to someone that you love


A pretty dreadful song by Haddaway as I recall

Baby don't hurt me


I don't know


Just posted the same comment, it's pretty dreadful....at least not my cup of darjeeling

@ipdg77 The title of the post immediately started off an earworm, so I shared the link because I didn't see why I should be the only one to suffer.

@Jnei And suffer we did lol

What is love, baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me, no more. XD XD

@TjallTjallOUTLK As I've always said - great voice, but crap songs.

@ShellyBean Whoa oh ho ho ho, oh ho ho ho. (Beat me to it!_


I think its more of a mental thing for humans. We are not that different from other animals on the planet. other animals don't mate and grow old together and die.

Erm...wrong. There are many monogamous species. Google is your friend.

@Neraven dude leme explain how this forum works. Everyone opinion matters and no one is wrong. So please take your "wrong" and RIDE IT!
just a tip: The internet is great for information however, its an average of 50% fact and 50% opinion. Telling anyone they are "wrong" is what the Christians do.


@twshield but that is wrong. Very simple. There are monogamous species, and they do grow old together and die lol. So your assertion that we are the only ones is WRONG. Its a fact, sir.

@Neraven no what is simple is i have an opinion and i stand by it. who are you to tell me i am "Wrong"? are you insinuating you know everything? If you have the need to be right about everything, this forum may not be for you...Perhaps you should attend a church service

@twshield ...Im gonna guess youre trolling. Cuz facts are facts. You can't have an opinion about something that has been proven to be a certain way. Well, you can, but its foolish and illogical.


@Neraven only trolls feel they need to be right about everything. if you feel i am a troll please block me because i would rather not have a conversation with someone who gets OPINIONS from google...instead of offering an original opinion


@twshield Didnt get that from google, actually.


I would like to add here that the science behind love is not so much my personal interest. There is an explanation for everything. I enjoy being human. Love and whatever reactions that cause it are the least of my worries. I think we all need some one, be it a good friend or a spouse to make us feel completely fulfilled. We need to feel connected to others, it is human nature.
How one chooses to perceive that, and how they choose to accept love and give it, comes from the nurture piece. I couldn't care less if it were misfiring genetic defect, i still want to experience it as much as possible.


I think a lot of it is attachment too, and I think it must happen over time. Live being chemist reactions in your mind is one thing, but that can fade without proper attention. It's the perfect example of nature and nurture working together.
That is my opinion and no idc how it happens just as long as it does. Eventually. Before I'm too old and fat to fit into another wedding dress.

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