I was chatting with a friend, who was telling me about her 17-year-old niece, who doesn't seem to be interested in dating. She seemed truly perplexed by that. I told her some people aren't ready by that age, I said that I wasn't. She said that she was.
I guess it surprised me that she would react this way regarding her niece. She's always known that I was a late-bloomer. But I'm thinking now she's probably assumed that all late-bloomers are quiet and shy, because I was -- but her niece isn't, she's actually quite outgoing and popular. I mean, I don't see a surprise there, some people are just not ready to date at a time when others are, regardless of their popularity.
I didn't start dating until I was in college, and even then I'm not sure if I was ready!
I'm just throwing this out there because Millennials & Generation Xers are "sexually fluid" and very different re: dating, sex, gender, and identity. Maybe she's not strictly hetero, therefore keeping her private life ... private. (NO, I'm not suggesting, more saying it could be something other than blooming late.)
i went on a blind date my sister set up for me. it was a disaster. i had lovers but we didn't meet on, or get to know each other on, dates; we went out together after becoming lovers. i met people through other means. i did go on two newspaper ad dates in the 1980s. one showed up drunk. with the other i hit it off and we were really enjoying ourselves when he put his hands around my throat. i don't LIKE that. it was a dealbreaker. (he went back to his ex, anyway.) and i met ONE guy on a computer date. he turned out to be married. so i am 67 now and have been with my guy for 19 years now. we didn't realy date. i am a late bloomer in terms of falling in love. in terms of dating... that's a bloom that passed me by.
I was puberty-delayed. All my life, people mocked me for being too skinny.
At 15, I finally developed a little figure. Suddenly I was pretty and popular. In high school, I made friends with everyone because I knew how hurtful cliques can be.
Between ages 18 - 22, I grew 1-1/2 inches taller. A later bloomer, indeed.
At 21, I ate 23 pancakes for breakfast. Amazed the cook! Was still growing.
Photo: Age 12 with little sister, 7. Loved that padded swimsuit top. Thought it made me look like I had a figure (breasts). Dream on, Kathleen.
I was 14 years old when I had my first Girlfriend Lost my virginity at 17 and got married the first time at 20 We were married for 17 years Got divorced and I did it again for an additional 8 years. It has been a wild ride. Asking myself am I ready to begin again? My mind says NO stay single. My Heart tells me Wake up I need Love. Time will tell
Very mixed bag here. I was a super early bloomer as far as interest goes, moderately late side of normal as far as putting it into practice goes. Started liking women as early as 5, first girlfriend/kiss/long distance relationship at 14, first “normal/local” relationship at 16, lost virginity at 18. (Which is super late when you’ve been a ball of hormonal interest since 5). Still haven’t had a normal live-in relationship as an adult, which feels super late to be starting to me. I hope it happens soon before my will exceeds my energy.
I was in private school when I was 13, hated to study so off to a school that required it. We were dating at 14 and lost my virginity to an ninth grader (older woman). My view on women was skewed for a while till I ran into the right woman she got me straight!
About average, I think we all mature at different rates at different things and we can have growth spurts. I learned a whole lot about sex in a short time after I got together with my first serious girlfriend. Like wise, I had to learn elementary finance pretty quickly once I was on my own. I have definitely seen many people rise to the occasion, I was a late parent but that's something else some people have to take up young.
I wanted to start dating around 15. Unfortunately I was all enthusiasm and no clue. I was like the kid that stands on the sidelines of a game running back and forth trying to figure out the rules so I can jump in and play. If there had been a manual, or some kind of protocols it would have been super helpful.