I seem to attract the dyed in the wool Bible Thumpers. ughhhh

Yup, just as I'm often drawn to others who are adopted and/or have had childhood trauma.

The number of nonbelievers in these parts is dismally small so there is nobody to be drawn towards.

I have a great deal of pity towards theists that are wasting so many of their finite resources to support a belief structure that encumbers their ability to recognize the full beauty of the natural world; as their view is clouded by superstition.

At one time I attempted to be a (fixer) for one I greatly cared for. Many years and opportunities were lost as a consequence of this ill-fated decision. I no longer desire to live with a person that requires fixing and I never wished a relationship with one I pity. Relationships should be founded on mutual trust and respect.

I've found that if they are believers they are always non-practicing.

Actually, I never really paid attention. Most of the people I know believe in something, but then so does ninety percent of the country. So the odds are high that I'm going to meet mostly believers.

I am drawn to people with respect for the evidence and truth. This does overlap strong with non believers, though.

I do think there is something to that. I have had a similar "Red" state experience.
I think it has to do with certain character traits, that do exist in some religious persons but a greater extent in the godless.

Yes

I have not yet met a non-believer.

I tend to be attracted to humanists and luckily one is now attracted to me!

I am aslo repelled by believers. They don't need to say anything - you can tell by that special smile and glazed eyes they have..........

Perhaps, but I know that I am automatically repelled by believers.

I tend to associate with people that are more rational so naturally they tend not to be religious.

Nope. Every relationship I've ever had was with a theist. I do not meet other gays that are non theists.

One of my working theories is that I'm not drawn to nonbelievers so much as repelled by believers. Perhaps religious people mention their convictoins often enough that I subconsciously get turned off by the idea of developing a further connection when first interacting with them.

That certainly holds true for a number of my acquaintances / coworkers who talk about their church group or the like all the time. But I don't think it fully explains the situation. I know tons of people who I've never heard mention anything spiritual so I'd have no idea what their religious beliefs are. But statistically speaking they're probably Christian. And yet I've managed to seek out and befriend/date only the exceptions to that norm. The mystery continues.