Y0u go to the registrar of births marriages and deaths and it takes five minutes to read and sign papers and then oyu are free to whoop i t up however you like

In 1978 when my late wife and I decided to marry we were living in West Virginia. At first we were told we could only be married by a member of the clergy, we going to be married in another state, a bit of a hassle back then. After some research we found the law had just changed to allow for judges to perform the ceremaony. We were married in the judges chambers, and the ceremany was simple with no reference to god. The judge was a progressive, and rather flamboyant gentleman, who was happe to perform a secular ceremony.

I am sure you can find any number of state or local officiants that will perform a secular marriage, not uncommon these days. Then you can add your own words, a very common practive today, in act many will allow you to write your own ceremony. What to say, you know your future spouse, look into your heart and add the words that capture what is special about your relationship.

Don't touch my shit!

I got married in a civil wedding ceremony it took about five minutes to complete at our local town hall which is about 100 yards from where we live , no vows or anyhting just sign on the dotted line - the nicest part was that we then went to a photographer who posed us in different ways and it was kindly and nice more intimate.
Later we decided marriage wasnt for us because we felt - more tied and responsible than we had before, so we got divorced.

I don't like the idea of marriage. Making a commitment today is just that — a commitment for today — not a lifelong commitment; I can't genuinely make a commitment, even for myself, for the future. Each day I'm with someone, I should be making a commitment to her anew, with no impediment to leaving the relationship. I want to know that each day we're together we're chosing to be together, not because staying is easier than leaving but because we value one another and genuinely want to be a part of one anther's life. I never want to question whether she's with me only because it would be a hassle to leave, or to wonder in the back of my own mind what my subconscious motivations are.

What are you still doing here?

Pretty much any vow that leaves out God and biblical rules... focusing on love and karma.

Ilove you. why would you have a wedding unless it helps you legally or for monitary reasons. you can take your partners name, where a ring, name any children after your partner, have a party anytime and by nature you love and want to live with your partner anyway. why would you want to pay some fool who really doesnt give a shit to tell you that you can be together when you probably are anyway?