I might dress up a little for a date, but that's because with my work, I usually run around in yoga clothes all day. That said, I might still wear matching yoga suits on a date. I probably put on makeup a couple times per year. Jewelry? I'm not quite sure where it even is.

I don't have a filter, and I know it.

I am comfortable with a date being himself, however, now that I am old, the men that I have dated, who are my age have been quite an eye opening experience. For some reason, men my age seem to be absolutely obsessed with sex. From the first moments, they start asking me about how I feel about various aspects of sex. Never any getting to know each other, it's straight to sex. I wonder if they think it makes them feel young and virile, when all it does is make them seem like nasty old horn dogs. I guess I'm glad they are being themselves, because I find out that I don't want another date, right off the bat. I wonder why they act that way. I'm a very free thinking, tattooed, old pagan woman, but that doesn't mean that all I want to talk about is sex. It is very strange.

Don't lie, but be the best version of yourself. And try to be that version as often as you can regardless. That's my suggestion. But I'm single, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

Always be yourself, otherwise they may be attracted to the facade and not who you really are. You will then either have to keep up the facade permanently, which will not be possible, or run the risk of them breaking up with you when they realise the truth. If they do not like you for who you are then it simply is not meant to be. I find insecurity a huge turn-off. A woman who is comfortable in her own skin is always far more attractive.

I would rather be with someone who is comfortable being himself on a date than a pretentious phoney, or worse yet, someone with secrets to hide. Uneasy people make me uneasy.

I think confidence is considered one of the most attractive traits, which is being comfortable in your own skin. If you like who you are others will like who you are. Don't try to act better because you'll just have to try and keep that up or you look ridiculous later when they find out that's not who you are. If the don't like you on the first date then you've saved a bunch of time. Who wants to get all invested in something that's not going to work out.

I'm just me. That's the way it is. I'm not sure if it helps me in dating but it helps me as a person, and helps me in dealing with others. If you are black I don't "talk your language" and do your handshake. Again, I'm just me. I'm this way with all people of every race and color. Once in Texas I took a new friend of mine with me as I went to see a family of black people I knew. He embarrassed me and them. As we left the hostess of the house told me at the door "you know you are welcome here any time but don't ever bring that son of a bitch back here again." It was good advice as my ignorant white friend had already went on towards the car.

Just be yourself. It's the best advice I can give.

Be honest. I'm not suggesting turning up to a date looking like "Johnny from The Shining" but be yourself.
That's only what you want from your date ?

As long as you are not hiding a nutjob personality beneath it all then yes, be yourself. Don't be pretentius.

If you aren’t who you are , who else would you want to be ? Well you can’t be anyone else , the real you will always be stronger , why live a lie ? That takes energy that can be used more effectively

Just be yourself. What's the point otherwise? Sooner or later the real you will pop out. If they don't like who you really are, then that's a good thing: you will know right away, and can move on to someone who does like the real you.

Yes

No. Just be yourself. Maybe try to be a little extra humorous. If they like you for you, thats 3/4 of the battle won right there.

I advise strongly, be yourself from the start, if you go over the top, ie super romantic, super generous, super nice, a year later, you have eased off a bit, but are still 10 times more romantic, generous etc than the next guy, but how could a girl not feel that that the way you treat her is not as good, you treat her less well? Is she less important to you now? Don't set he bar too high, of course don't set it too low either, that won't end well.

Be yourself, make light jokes (don't be a jackass, be light with the comedy), but don't be too familiar. As guys, we gotta have some questions ready that can strike up the conversation, as I have noticed that the onus of starting the conversation and sometimes restarting or pacing is on us.

If she is talking, let her talk. listen to her. let her get it out. If she is leading the conversation. let her lead.

I always like to start by giving them the Evil Eye. It's a good ice breaker, and promise that you will remove it on the second date. But that's just how I roll.

You bet

Don't bare your soul to someone, but don't lie. Keep some insecurities and such to yourself, be your best self, but do not be someone you are not.

Sounds like you should ask those of interest, what they prefer. I’m attracted to women who don’t conform to social expectations. Knowing who you are and being comfortable with that, is highly desirable.

If who they are is a jerk, then no, I'm not attracted. If who they are is interesting and funny, then yes.

I'd say if you are trying to trick them then not being yourself is a good idea. Just remember, they might be trying to trick you also. If that is the case then the whole date is a two person play, and you can save money by not having to buy theatre tickets

Do not try to create an impression that you later find a strain to maintain. There is a lot to be said for just being yourself. All relationships begin somewhere and in the course of time unstated and sometimes unrealistic expectations come to light. I wouldn't worry about it for the simple reason that if it is not this one then sooner or later there will be another one.

Right..I just had a quick experience with something concerning the heart of your question- as far as I understand it, anyway...love at first sight- really! because his dick doesn't work- but, found out that he is an alcoholic. I am a recovering addict ( I shall fill the hole in my brain forever..shopping, fucking, complaining, eating...) we are the same age, come from the same area- yet our differences are stunning. I have cancer and I take care of myself- he doesn't have cancer but he's a ticking timebomb for diabetes and hypertension (hot blooded portugee) here's the rub: I don't want to change him- but, I want to support him taking better care of himself. he says, 'I like who I am..." well, shit. what can you say? besides you are delusional, lol. so, if i'm making any sense, then i've gotten across the reality of a new attraction: more will be revealed. regarding your acting better than you truly are? chicks just first want to know if your dick is big and if you are butch and secretly submissive..handy man and good communicator, ya know? so, act like you are better than what? what are YOU there for?

I act like myself on the first date.

I try to be genuine, but also maybe a lite version of myself. That first date is all about learning, gauging, seeing if personalities match, if there is a spark. As comfortability sets in I become a little less guarded and more apt to just be my whole self more freely.