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Admitting when you’re wrong..

It is said that America is suffering an epidemic of infallibility and I agree, but I don’t think the problem applies only to Americans.

I think this is a human issue.

People have a hard time admitting when they’re wrong, as if doing so is a weakness, and it has resulted in division and fractured trust.

Some people will admit they’re wrong only to keep their image in good standing, like narcissists.
Others will actually take responsibility for their wrongs and do what they can to make right, but they seem to be in the minority.

What do you think is at the core of this epidemic?
Is it simply the fear of feeling embarrassed or ashamed?

When you’ve been handed evidence showing you’re wrong, or are caught in a lie, do you dig your heels into your indefensible position,or do you concede and take the necessary steps to think and do better?

I know that personally, when I admit I was wrong or mistaken, I do my best to be conscious and consistent in righting the wrong behavior so as not to make amends again, but also because trust and integrity mean a lot to me.
I’m quicker to trust a person who can admit they’re fallible, take full reaponsibility for their actions and take steps change.
Do you appreciate humility too?

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Since my teens and until my forties I was "never wrong"....One day a friend who knew me from childhood told me why I acted in such stupid way. She said: "You -like most in our generation- were taught how to do everything the right way by being told that you were always wrong." She was correct and until that day I was a person who had great difficulty accepting when I was wrong.

DUCHESSA Level 8 Apr 6, 2018
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I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong like that one time I got married.

I made that mistake twice... Sometimes I'm a slow learner

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It is a sign of emotional maturity and high character to admit when one is wrong.

pc10101 Level 5 Apr 5, 2018
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Difficult questions without easy answers. It’s easy to admit you’re wrong about small things, but the bigger issues are a different animal. Studies have shown that giving people evidence that they are wrong just makes them more steadfast in their resolve.

It’s hard to gauge, but the internet and social media have had to have some impact on this phenomenon, right? It’s never been easier to find people who harbor your exact same beliefs, no matter how misguided. And it’s never been easier to get misguided beliefs out into the world to find their chorus.

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If I'm wrong about something, I will own it. If it's someone's interpretation that I'm wrong, when I have evidence to suggest otherwise, then no, I'm not going to back down. But I also don't feel I need to prove I'm right unless I'm challenged. If I've offended someone because they misinterpreted my intentions in a comment or action, I have no problem apologizing that they were offended, but will explain that my intent was misunderstood and I'll work on better communication skills.

Well, just wow. Thank you, Amy. ? <3 About the story, I wonder if it ever left the parents.

I agree with Amy...

@BucketlistBob smile001.gif

Yes I concur. ??????

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If I am wrong, then I'm wrong, I'll admit it and take what ever consequences that comes with it.
Always have and always will.

Clare Level 7 Apr 5, 2018
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I am the first to admit when I am wrong. I've been wrong before... I believe it was on a Tuesday.... smile007.gif

I assume it was that one time that you thought you were wrong, but you were really right.

No, I am right about being wrong. smile001.gif

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Why? That's a good question, but it probably starts with insecurity and embarrassment, or rather avoiding embarrassment..

I know for a fact that I'll admit when I'm wrong because it happened once smile009.gif

When I screw up, I want to fix it, not worry about deflecting blame. I don't ever intend to be caught in a lie, though. Integrity is important to me, and once compromised it's gone.

JimG Level 8 Apr 5, 2018
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Absolutely. Being wrong is normal and so is changing your mind. I've done it countless times in last two years. Heck, I wouldn't have renounced my religion if it weren't for feeling like I was completely wrong. I also used to think Stalin wasn't so bad in middle school (I changed this view). I also examine things myself and make judgement without peer pressure. If something is stupid but everyone seems to be doing it, I don't care and I don't give in because of that. I also try my best to be as rational as possible so as to not make irrational decisions that are based too much on emotion/feelings.

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I do appreciate when a person can admit they erred. When my error is pointed out I own up. Course I can justify with the best of 'em smile001.gif. I do try and not do that.

People are afraid of appearing foolish and sometimes cover that will too much bravado.

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Admitting a mistake takes strengh of character -- and makes one a better person.

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I don't think that admitting being wrong and taking responsibility is being humble. In no way am I humble, but I have no problem saying when I am wrong. I think my students are sometimes surprised when I say, "Oh, gosh, that was my fault." I think some people fear repercussions for their mistakes, so they do not want to own up to them. And speaking of students, I had one last week who plagiarized 3.5 pages of a five page paper. When I copied and pasted a couple of paragraphs from the websites under the plagiarized paragraphs, she insisted that SHE DID NOT COPY AND PASTE AND SHE HAD NOT SEEN THOSE WEBSITES. I sent more proof, she still insisted she was innocent. I sent screenshots of the passages as they were on the site and told her that I was sending them to my department chair, as well. I did not hear from her again.

In 18 years of teaching college, this was the first student to deny what she had done in light of hard proof. So . . . not only was she not able to admit her "error," but she kept denying it, and I think she afraid of the consequences. They happened anyway.

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I thought I was wrong once, but I was mistaken.
smile009.gif

KKGator Level 9 Apr 5, 2018
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My humility is my favorite thing about me?

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I think it is the ultimate act of honesty, to admit when you’re wrong.

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I meant egocentricity!

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I agree with you that this is a human condition. I also think that not wanting to admit being wrong has had much more devastating consequences when someone knows they're wrong and lets things move forward anyway, regardless of the result.

When I am wrong, I always try to own it and make corrections/make it right if it's possible to do so. I have definitely made my share of mistakes.

IAMGROOT Level 7 Apr 5, 2018
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I own up to my many mistakes all the time, and have a ton of respect for people who do the same.

Me too

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I admit when I am wrong. It happens often enough. I also love to learn, and changing opinions when faced with facts is key to expanding one's knowledge.

I wish more people understood that it is completely natural to be incorrect. What's not natural is to stubbornly cling to proven fallacies.
I think it's the adult equivalent to a safety blanket.

That is what I consider weak.

@crappyburglar yup

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I do appreciate humility, yes. As for myself, it has been so long since I have been caught in a lie that I can't tell you what it was about. I try very hard to always speak truthfully. Admitting that I have done something wrong or done someONE wrong is also rare for the same reason.

Being incorrect or mistaken about something happens more frequently. I will often defend my position until someone can demonstrate or logically explain why I am off base or gives me a vital piece of information I was missing. However, at that point there is no sense in debating any longer, I chalk it up as a learning experience, and will normally express gratitude about being corrected.

This does not mean that I am not stubborn at times, but if I'm wrong, I am wrong and generally will accept it. I do not like being wrong. Rather than fighting it against all reason, it's better to accept and embrace it so as to not continue being in the wrong.

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I'm not sure that I appreciate humility but will settle for honesty and reasoning.
I can admit I'm wrong without a problem. I don't like the time wasted on feelings that doesn't need to be. It's not very productive.

MartinG Level 6 Apr 5, 2018
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I like looking at the evidence. If the evidence changes, my mind usually follows... if the new evidence is of high quality. If I can easily pick the study apart, it goes in the trash heap.

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I stand corrected . Thank you for bringing that to my attention , is the proper thing to say. As you pointed out It can be embarrassing so there could be a reluctance to admit you are wrong. I think it is human nature.

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Yes Amy. I admit when I'm wrong. I don't have a need to be right all the time. For instance I reposted an atheist/agnostic chart on another post. Two members didn't like it. I'm ok with that.

ok being disagreed with

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I have no problem with being wrong. I know I am flawed, and sometimes will make mistakes. I work with someone who will never admit she is wrong, and thinks I am being disrespectful if I have an idea other than hers. Hard to deal with idiots like that

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The infallibility epidemic is an extension of their religion. When people consider their religion to be divine and infallible, they think their own actions and beliefs are infallible by extension. American exceptualism and individual exceptualism are both often born from religious exceptualism. There's no evidence to support any of it, but that doesn't seem to be a hindrance for any of them.

Lionfann Level 2 Apr 5, 2018
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