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Did you have any issues running into fake or bad profiles on Match?
I'm 51, and I kept getting notifications that beautiful young women in their 20's were interested in me. I dated 6 women close to my age 44 to 54, and I've been dating the same women exclusively for 4 months, so it worked for me. The beautiful young women were amusing.
In the beginning, it was always through high school/friends.....and a few random encounters at SIx Flags. Later, it became work, pubs, and nightclubs, and occasionally at college. I met quite a few women at Mardi Gras in both New Orleans and Saint Louis. However, for the last 12 years or so, it seems to be mostly online, through MySpace, then Facebook, then OKCupid.
My circles always been the same... Dancing Venues. I used to drink, now seldom do... never been a bar guy. But you can find romance everywhere and anywhere to tell the truth. The Dance Floor worked for me but at my age all dynamics had changed. I must adapt to conquer. All options you provided are valid places for some and not for others. Good Luck and better Hunting. Random worked for me.
@Keyboard-Mama there is a large community of Ballroom followers around the Capital Beltway and Salsa lives. And True our age group dissapears by the hour but is up to us to quit or continue and still known faces of 18 years ago when I retired after service in Germany and like in Germany I used to go dancing evrry night there. DC was the same thing, Salsa dancing every night... DC, Baltimore, Northern Virginia. Things changed and got younged but the Casinos in Baltimore and Maryland offer Salsa. Clubs in northern virginia coming back and bringing salsa bands. Dance studios always offer and feature meetups and dances. It may not be Vegas or Miami but is up to you to continue or quit. While here I got my dance partner, a former GF, pro ballroom dancer so she makes me look good and we still hang out in friendship in our 60's. Venues are there but we support or they dissapear. Cancun Cantina Sundays, Maryland Live Casino has on certain Fridays plus Every Monday, Horse Shoe Casino in Baltimore Fridays or Saturdays. There are some clubs in Nortern Virginia, Silver Springs, La Palapa on Thursdays in Elicott City. The Salsa Bachata Congress just happened in Baltimore. I don't want to say I live here in Maryland, I am on a Extended Visit but is what it is while it is.
@Keyboard-Mama and you are in good company, there are jazz clubs and blues clubs were grownups feel welcome, last month I had a wonderful time with a date in a Blues Club in Jacksonville, FL. Who recommended the place? My daughter. We grown ups prefer live music to "dj mix" or "dj labrat". But we need to find the way to stay relevant and enjoy a night in town. You never know who you meet or bump into.
Met my husband on OkCupid. I'm polyamorous, and I met my GF in middle School. My husband met our bf first through a career event. I met him through my husband.
This seems oddly worded: "for those actively looking...where did you find success?".
Aren't the two mutually exclusive? If they are still actively looking does not that imply that they have not yet succeeded?
PS -- I voted other because I was forced to vote in order to comment....
I am actively failing to find partner consistently !
I was thinking in lines of being proactive when I said active. Those that are going out there and joining dating sites, walking clubs, bars/pubs and what not. Those trying to get themselves out there.
@SunshineBee Yes I was making a joke ... it was not in any way a serious comment ..
I have had several attempts in the last few years at not having relationships .. By that I mean I have been dealing with health issues so serious trying to get emotionally involved would have been stupid .. It's far easier to make a joke than explain lol .. but I don't mind .. Now I am through that and made some headway with a diagnosis I can be a human again.. In those periods when it isn't possible I tend to go help someone who needs a man to be a proper human being but can't be attached for their own reasons and make a positive situation out of it ;o Go save a woman from an asshole .. go be kind to a woman who is in a pattern of abusive relationships .. just be good .. ya know .. go free some minds and mend some hearts !!
On a dating website. However, those success came when I wasn't quite as picky as I am now. Hummm... Just haven't found a good fit yet. Not sure dating sites are the right place anymore but I work from home so... I do think it's worth the search no matter how long it takes because life, for me, is better when shared with a close friend/partner.