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How many of you feel completely alone even surrounded by people you love

This is a strange feeling I have that I’ve never quite understood. I can be surrounded by those I love and whom love me, people who truly know and understand me and yet feel utterly alone. Not a depressed loneliness more of just a feeling of isolated detachment, it’s hard to explain but if you feel it you would know what I mean. I truly have a hard time understanding this.

Rowles442 3 May 30
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Me everyday. It is hard to describe, but depression comes close.

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Nearly all of the time. I have very few friends and even with them I more often than not feel we are not quite connecting. I'm not sure I understand how other people think, act and what makes them tick. That's OK, I don't understand that about myself, either.

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I've felt that way for yrs. Alone at a family reunion even

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I feel this way as well sometimes and I can’t explain it.

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That's life.
No matter how close you may be to others, you are alone.
Normal I think.

I think so. The trick is realizing that it's not that unusual. You are not alone feeling alone. We live in tiny little boxes, doing our own business, and are concerned only for ourselves more and more. I don't think our psychology has evolved fast enough to deal with the current living arrangements.

@RichWWeissmann people sometimes wear mask...creating there own illusions of feeling apart of...people that admit the disconnect are bold and courageous

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Ahh, you're not unique in that feeling, my friend, believe me. With me, it's more of a feeling that no one gets me. It diminishes significantly when I'm around certain people, however, like my daughter and her husband, and a couple friends of mine. I am fairly certain this is because those individuals accept me completely for who I am and we are all transparent, or pretty much so, with one another and able to be ourselves.

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I used to feel that way all the time. It was because I didn't really accept myself and everything about me. Once I learned that all the things I didn't accept were what made me who I am right now, I learned to love myself unconditionally. I have not felt alone since, even when I'm the only one in the room.

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It's 2:39 am and here I am typing....what does that say? ???

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I'm having the same problem. I think it's a product of feeling disconnected from my community. It's a perceived isolation that isn't real. We are way more alike than different.

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Usually I'm feeling this way if I'm feeling disconnected from myself. I feel like I'm watching the world from behind a wall of unbreakable glass where nothing can penetrate.

Being an observer...highly evolved individuals are able to detach and observe.

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Yeah, I definitely feel this a lot. I suffer from depression (MDD) but I often feel a separate loneliness much like what you described. I tend to have a difficult time translating my thoughts to words - especially in person. I have lots of friends that care about me, but it's like no one actually gets me for lack of a better word.

Yes exactly!

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I'm alone, but not lonely and I'm fine with this .

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I have felt this way my whole life. Not sure what is missing. The closest I feel is when I am with my son or talking to him on the phone. Or with my cat. Though he doesn't do much, he does snuggle with me and show love and acceptance. When I was growing up I was much more at home with the animals on our farm than I was with my own family.

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Relativitity within groups are the key...I understand

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Alone or a sense of aloneness? I have been in a room full of family and friends having the time of their lives when this feeling creep over me. When commonalities lacking amongst certain people exist there is this momentarily feeling of aloneness perhaps until you lower your expectations and engage

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Never cared for feeling alone. Feeling lonely... that's what matters realy.

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I always feel alone even when someone tells me they love me, I always feel it is to try and get something from me

Trust is a concern here...

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I believe it happens in those who are not their authentic selves around other people.

If someone creates and maintains a 'persona' around other people, the other people will only know the persona - and not the real person.

This is why they feel lonely. The loneliness is self imposed.

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I went through the EXACT same thing not too long ago (and still going through to some extent) I was going through some major things in my life. In this order: my pet died, my kidneys went into final failure, my wife left me, my sister died. All of this happened in a span of 6 months. To say that all of this caused me to feel alone is an understatement. I was about as empty as one could get. Recently I have been slowly replacing everything that has been stripped inside of me and pretty much starting from scratch with myself! It has been helping me improve. In my humble opinion there is something specific that you are missing from your life that you need to feel whole again.

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Except for one or two fleeting moments in my life I've always felt alone. I'm sorry. It sucks.

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I am alone most of the time even in a crowded room. The few times I have not felt alone I was hanging out with people with extremely high IQ's these people were not only smart they understood my absurdities.

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