"Soulmate"once meant something, and it may well again, but it's been overused to the extent that it now means little more than a weekend "hookup."
To me, the concept means the one, the only, the one-in-a-billion person who is completely compatible in every possible way. I don't think it happens twice.

I don't know about "soul mates", but I do know of married couples where they're basically perfect for each other and comfortable to the point where they could shit on the rug in front of the other and they wouldn't mind.

if somebody you're in a relationship with connects with you in a positive way in the areas of life that are important to you as a human and a female i would consider that person a soulmate, although i don't believe in the soul. good luck

No such thing...in my opinion. I am sad for you that your father was a pervert with no soul. Not all men are that way, many are, but not all. I hope you are seeking therapy for the scars he inflicted.

I don't believe in "soul mates" per se, but i do believe that some people find someone with whom they are highly compatible. Unfortunately tht is the exception and not the rule.

If you want to meet people online, rather than a "dating site",, I'd try a common interest site like meetup.com, where you will encounter people with at least one mutual interest in each Meetup group you might be interested in. And, i fyou dont' meet anyone who would make a good date you might still at least meet a good friend.

As a gay man, I think finding good friends is a lto harder than finding sex partners. So, I value finding possible "good" friends much more.

I've never found a soulmate. Whether one exists or not, I cannot say. If one shows, I'll be pleasantly surprised. If not, I won't be surprised. Expect the worst, so when something good does happen, it'll be that much better.

In 1973 this girl I really liked her told me... "You May Not Be It but If You Are at The Right Place at the Right Time... You Are Going To Be It". Well, I got Tired of Being It and I am Sure She Was Glad. But Here is The Teaching of a Lifetime... We Were One of the "Couples" in the College. I know Once We Ended It... all Eyes Were On Me and On Her. We Handled it with Dignity and We Stayed Friends. No Scandal. She Choose a Musician... I Choose an Harem and Never Again Got Exclusive. I saw her new beau very Pissed when they broke up. We were friends... I didn't asked him or her, not of my interest. There are SoulMates I found one and we decided to postpone it for another life. You Can Only Do That with Soulmates Kiddo!!!! Nah, was not the 1973 girl. And you can Fake Soulmate but the Souls will Know. So Don't!!!!

It's a lovely mind game.

Souls don't exist, therefore they cannot mate.

The problem is people do not realize that a relationship is work. It is constant rebalance, constant compromise and constant support. If all that is one sided then you are not in a relationship, you are more likely babysitting. I often tell people who are looking to focus on a hobby and go to groups set up for that hobby... more than one if they have the time. Get to know people with similar interests and be friends first. Take time because rushing into a relationship with someone you don't know well has an extremely high probability of blowing up in your face. Learning about other people, how they are and what they might be like to spend a lot of time with is a long, drawn out thing, especially when looking for a life partner. It's too important of a choice to make through hormones or loneliness.

I think it is time you show you some love. You are open to sharing and building a healthy relationship and no way change that ethic. But have fun. . Redefine hookup? The parent was a POS and not a parent. But I suggest healing helps us beat them at their own attempt to keep us small and vulnerable. Heal thy self and you will blossom A soul mate? I want a really lovely and sensual partner with a great sense of humor. As a woman seek a man and to hell with the boys

I think they are real and sometimes we meet again on life's highways. They are special.

It took me a long time and lots of mistakes as I too had been abused as a child. However eventually I found a beautiful soul who I loved truly for the first time in my life and I believe was 'the one' my soulmate.

I was certain i had met my soul mate, ( love at first sight ) and was equally certain the feeling was reciprocal. Ah, ... "feelings" or the biological, neuro-chemical brew that happens. Should we "go with it ?" I'm suspicious, and consequently, cautious. It was a little complicated as she had two children and the relationship with her ex was ambiguous from where i was standing. There seems to be the expectation that the male will lead, and i've never been much of a mind reader or any good at un-jumbling "signals". Anyway, it didn't happen. She moved on. Retrospectively i think she really want to get the sex happening, grew impatient / frustrated and moved on. She is a highly organised lady and i even spotted a bossy streak in her now and again. I'm not convinced of the idea of a soul mate for a variety of reasons based on some understanding of biological drivers, tempered by my own and others experiences. Endlessly discussing and attempting to untangle the drama of relationships has made the likes of Oprah and Dr Phil et al mega wealthy with no discernible impact beyond the titillation of couch potatoes. I may have missed the opportunity of a lifetime or dodged a bullet. Neither of us will ever know.

I've been single almost 30 years and I have found my soulmeet yet and eventually I'll find her

The term "soulmate" is used by marriage bureaus in some countries. Among billions of men and women , to find the so called "soulmate" it would take nearly 100's of years to find the one. Which means no one is perfect.

i think some do

Relationships have become different than they use to be the world has changed so much. I though I had found mine , but alas too many things pulling us apart, very sad because everyone wants that special someone. But it is so hard now .

If you don’t believe in the premise of a soul, seems pointless to ponder further..? I think we’ve the ability to ‘lock in,’ so to speak.. To become so emotionally connected that we’d die for our mate, which may be the necessary mindset for protecting offspring? Few human ‘laws’ appear to reflect our biological base behaviors...

You seem high-octane, most guys can’t handle - let alone appreciate that. I’ve a daughter for which it may take longer, and she’s ok if a permanent r/s never happens. And, as the father of daughters ..a loving father protects - period Heal, you Atheist Warrior

We may have thought with each marriage or long term relationship we did-maybe someone who is with their partner till death like my mom and dad. Though I remember my father;s words as a teenager whenever we fought- "What do you want me to do -leave your mother,"? Were they soulmates? My dad and mom were married almost 60 years. I don't know @Sarahroo29.

To me a soulmate is someone you had an attachment with in a past life and we would wait for each other no matter what. Being that most people in the world are "fucking around" (pun intended) in gets harder to find them. Even when we are next to each other social sterotypes can block us from each other. in example: religion.

Oh wow. I'm so sorry you've experienced that. All of that. I can't say for certain on the soulmate thing (having never found one for myself). But, I do wish to believe it.