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The Overprotected Kid

A preoccupation with safety has stripped childhood of independence, risk taking, and discovery—without making it safer. A new kind of playground points to a better solution. []

I, and my friends, in the late 50s and 60s, had more freedom than anyone could ever want! But there's more to MY story than what first meets the eye.

I went wherever I wanted, including alone in boats on the ocean, climbing huge trees, climbing 50 foot sheer cliffs, wondering the woods (more on that later!) riding my bike or walking everywhere. EVERYWHERE!

I remember being warned about our gay neighbor who had served time for having sex with underage teen boys in a different town (did he know? Probably not). The warning was simply to tell my parents if he ever DID try anything with me.

I was allowed to sleepover with his brother (who was my age) whom he had custody of after their parents died. He was a pillar of the community, volunteering for all kinds of things, including with the fire dept auxillary. As far as I know he NEVER had any issues with underage boys again.

I was even going to be allowed to travel to NYC with them, but I chickened out (I was so shy and such a homebody)!

My point in all of this isn't just about how much freedom and responsibility I had, but the fact that I NEVER told my parents that THIS guy wasn't the problem. No, it was the neighbor on the other side...The teenage son of my Sunday School teacher, who was "having fun" with me (it started when I was about 8 or 9) in the woods behind our house, and in his bedroom, and in mine. And wherever we found the opportunity! Haha!

Ahh, the good old days!

Daco2007 7 Nov 13
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I've heard so many "Me too" stories about abuse - I'm sorry to hear you have one as well.
(Though whether you consider it abuse I'm unsure?).

From neighbors - to sitters - to bible camp counselors - to creepy Uncles, Fathers and Brothers - "The good old days" did not warrant telling someone.

And if we did? We were usually encouraged to sweep it well under the carpet if it involved a family member or someone that an adult had to interact with on the regular - to save embarassment/conflict.

Lets hope that even if children might have less self determination now - that this ONE THING has changed.

That if they turn to an adult - to any adult? That they are heard. That they are not dismissed and that they are given some form of justice. (And at the very least some counseling for the abuse).

Because damn - I'm tired of saying "Me too" on this one.
It takes far too long to heal from it.

RavenCT Level 9 Nov 13, 2019

I don't. I knew I was in complete control, and HE knew it too. All I had to do was to mention it to my dad, and it would gone "tits up" (as the British like to say) in a hurry! And that's the difference I think, in that I was given responsibility for my actions and decisions, so I didn't feel like I was helpless, and I also knew I DID like boys, so it was all good.


My parents were protective of me and so were my grandparents when they adopted me... They even homeschooled me... And when / if I went out to play, either one or both went with me... But I was okay with it...
Today, I'm very cautious in this world... I keep in very good shape.. I ring and exercise and I take self defense classes... I'm also very observant of my surroundings...
I'll raise my daughter the same...

@AncientNight I'm in Manhattan, I put West bubble fuck when I first joined when I lived in Ferndale NY... I was being cautious

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