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MATH IS ABSOLUTE But is it really? I struggle with the simplest math, and I wonder why my brain ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 5, 2018:
Interesting! I dislike "doing" math and never took an algebra class (even though I have a BA and an MA in literature/creative writing and an elementary school teaching credential). I have never had the slightest inconvenience from not having higher level math courses. But for someone who likes math to have anxiety--that never occurred to me. I suppose it should have, though, because I have met quite a few people who wanted to be writers who had absolutely no writing talent and would never develop it. However, if I recall correctly (from classes while getting the teaching credential) there are various strands of math. I looked them up, and they seem to be https://www.nap.edu/read/9822/chapter/6#116 How math is taught could well affect how well a person "likes" math and, for sure, how well he/she understands math. When I was a girl, I was told that girls do not do well in math, yeah, that surely encouraged me to try harder to understand--what was the point? When I took the NTE, I bombed the math section, did well on science, better on history/social sciences, and had a 98% for fine arts and literature (I missed a couple of music questions). However, when a friend of mine took the NTE several years later, the math section was revamped and was more about concepts than equations. I would have done much better. Likewise, when I took the GRE the first time, I bombed the "logic" section. When I took it again three years later, that section had been changed to concepts; I passed with flying colors. On another note, it was the same test for the language arts section, and I did worse. Go figure.
Is polyromanticism a natural evolution of the modern relationship dynamic?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 5, 2018:
It has always existed. Study history.
I have surely screwed up on the relationship front. I think a lot of what is good is growing ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 5, 2018:
At 65 and having been married for 25 years (from the time I was 20-45) and having a live-in relationship for seven years after that, I don't want to live with anyone. I have seen many of my friends, family, and acquaintances get into relationships because of their "need" to be with someone. The "someone" with whom people "need" to be with is their inner self.
What do we all have in common as humans?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 4, 2018:
We are born: we die. That's it.
Who do you think is sexier, Daphne or Velma? I think it is Velma. But than I’m sapiosexual and...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 4, 2018:
Neither is my type.
How about a childhood photo?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 4, 2018:
I'm the baby wearing the cowboy hat. As you can see, we were very poor and lived in a third world country: backwoods Oklahoma. In the other, I had my mouth open: it has not been closed since then.
If we found the cure for aging, healthy youthful life extension, how would different segments of ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 4, 2018:
There would be few people who would not take it. In a hundred years, we would be fighting for resources even more than we are now. In a thousand years, there would be standing room only. We would die not from old age, but of starvation and lack of shelter. Longevity has its price, as the US is finding out now with aging baby boomers: half a decade ago, most would not have lived as long as they have,
True or False: How we think is determined by the mind, not how things really are.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 4, 2018:
How we think or what we think about "things"? Perception vs. reality?
May the Zen be with you all my friends !!! Zen itself is indefinable Zen is not a theology Zen ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 4, 2018:
That was zen; this is tao.
What would you do if the end was near?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 4, 2018:
Eat as much as I could. Spend time with my family. Sit around and cry.
Why are churches still tax free?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 3, 2018:
You tell me!
Day from hell. I don't believe in evil spirits, or diety disapproval, but I do believe in confluence...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 3, 2018:
Chain reaction . . . student plagiarizes and I take over an hour to grade the paper and document the plagiarism when I could have graded two more papers. Student denies plagiarism. I take another hour to document even more. More time lost. Next day, student still says she has not plagiarized. Another hour (at least) spent documenting to the nth degree. Send proof to student, tell her that I am going to send the proof to my department chair (more time lost in emailing him). I do not hear from student again, but waaay behind in grading. Butterfly effect? More like a stampede of elephants effect.
Is it a truism that women enjoy intimacy more in sex and men enjoy the physical more? Or there is ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 3, 2018:
It is a fallacy.
Monogamy vs. Polygamy
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 3, 2018:
Well, having no answer to my "guy" question, I will answer anyway. We are not born to be monogamous, but women have been fed the line that they should be for various reasons. Men, however, have been allowed to have multiple wives and when the committed adultery, it was widely accepted because, after all (to paraphrase Tammy Wynette), they are "just men." Women needed to have one husband and to be a virgin at marriage in order to ensure that the husband was the father of the child. It is why when the Jews ransacked a city, they were to kill everyone but the virgins. Since virginity could not be proven, though, the pillager had to wait a year before having sex with her to ensure that she was not already pregnant. Biologically speaking, the purpose of life is to perpetuate the species; in this light, polygamy makes more sense than polyandry because one male can impregnate as many females with whom he can have sex. A woman with many male partners can only produce one child at a time. However, this was not the basis for polygamy. The concept of perpetuating the male lineage was paramount, and this was better accomplished with multiple wives. Ironically, in Egypt and Judaism, lineage was traced through the mother because (with some exceptions) one always knew who one's mother was but not so one's father. Women were property in most cultures; they were dominated by men. This also fed into the aspects of polygamy. Another irony: for centuries, women were considered ravening sexual creatures. The myth of the succubus, the tale of Inanna wherein she asks Dumuzi to "plow my furrow," the archetype of the seductress, and other cultural concepts meant women had to be kept in their places and away from other men. The Victorian Era spawned the idea that women did not enjoy sex. False, but again, they were told that they were.
Married men make more than Single Men
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 3, 2018:
I don't have the energy to read the article as I just graded five poorly written essays, but from reading the scant info provided, I do have some observations. Married does not equal having children, so the title of this thread should reflect this. Second, having kids does not equal being married; do cohabitants with children still fit the "standard"? Married women work less than whom? Their husbands? Single women? Finally, for all the men who jumped on the "women are demons and take advantage of men" bandwagon, marriage benefits men more than women: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201510/is-marriage-worth-the-trouble-women https://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2016/03/14/marriage-is-more-beneficial-for-men-than-women-study-shows/ Is age taken into consideration? Are the married men in the study older and more established in their careers than the single men in the study?
Monogamy vs. Polygamy
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 3, 2018:
By "guys," do you mean only men should answer?
What's a phrase you vehemently despise?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 3, 2018:
"Everything happens for a reason." No, really, they don't.
Forget about love,if you are not famous, you are immigrant, not holding a PHD, not famous, not a ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 2, 2018:
In my over ten years of on and off dating sites and being single, I could say the same about men. Butt-ugly, obese, 18- 85 year old men want a sexy, sexually aggressive, good-looking, large breasted, thin woman. They are not so concerned whether she is intelligent and they aren't too concerned if she does not have a job unless she is a gold-digger. I have seen profiles of such men and they have contacted me online and approached me offline. However, I KNOW that not all men are the same, so I won't say it. Maybe, dude, the problem is you, not the women.
Does culture ever bore you?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 2, 2018:
There is no originality--only things to which we have not been exposed. If you dislike social conventionalities, then do not participate. I have learned to be a chameleon.
Do you like country living? For those that do, did, ? Or want to
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 1, 2018:
Most people, including a lot of them who live in the "country," don't have a clue what "living in the country" really means. Until I was six, we had no running water, used a bucket in the well, and had an outhouse. My mom and dad still used oil lamps in the '50s. My mom was washing clothes in a wash-pot in the yard until just before I was born. People who live off the grid today do so by choice, but people in backwoods Oklahoma and other states did not have the choice. Having said that, I am in a semi-rural area ten minutes from town. It is a compromise between wanting to live in the country and, at the time, being 20 minutes from the campus where I taught. I have well (with an electric pump) and a septic. I would like to have no neighbors and be farther out, but it is not truly feasible. I would want the amenities, though, including the internet (I work online). Keeping this house and having a retreat would be ideal.
How would everyone feel about being refused a date because you’re an atheist? Im good friends ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Apr 1, 2018:
Honestly, he might be using it as an excuse to cover another reason why he does not want to date you.
Ever done things to please others?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 31, 2018:
I have not done anything dangerous or embarrassing, but yes, I have done things that I did not want to do because my partner asked. Depending on the situation, it was a slight annoyance or caused a simmering resentment that manifested in various ways. I haven't done anything such as this for a long time--it is one reason why my last boyfriend called me "selfish." Yeah, well, if I don't wanna, I am not going to.
What's your favorite insult?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 29, 2018:
I like, "Ya know, I have don't have to wish you ill: being you is enough punishment." I also like to use a bunch of big words; most people in Missouri have no idea what I am even saying.
Do you regret that your beliefs (or lack thereof) hinder the connection you make with some ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 29, 2018:
No--why would I? I find it interesting that when I was pagan and now that I am atheist, people did not and do not tend "dump on me" or shy away. However, I know both pagans and atheists whom people perceive negatively. Personally, I think personality and projection accounts for most of this. Well, there are a couple of old biddies at the local McD's who gossip about me, but that is because they disapprove of the way that I dress at my age--they especially disapprove of my short skirts. I am totally devastated, of course.
Stephen King fan here. His novels have chilled me but most of his horror stories adapted to ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 29, 2018:
I don't know that I have A favorite, but I have watched The Stand (miniseries) more than once and I rarely watch anything twice. I also like the movie Stand by Me which is based on King's short story, "The Body." The Green Mile was good, too. I have not seen the new movie of It, but the miniseries wasn't shabby. The ending sucked, but the ending sucked in the book, too. That series made my sons, and many other kids, scared of clowns.
Do you talk to yourself?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 29, 2018:
Yes. https://www.lifehack.org/334241/why-people-who-talk-themselves-are-geniuses-according-scientists
People that won't take no for an answer
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 29, 2018:
I have experienced this. I have also had men, on being "rejected," ask if we can "just" be friends; every one of them thought friendship was a path to the vagina. No. I have had platonic male friends, but none of them ever wanted to date me before we became friends. I do, though, have a couple of former boyfriends who are now platonic buds.
What is the plural of Jesus? Is it Jesuses? Jesii? Jesuss? Or does one simple say ":a herd of ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 29, 2018:
And I would probably say, "Hey, look at all those guys who think that they are Jesus!" I tend to take the easy way out.
What is the plural of Jesus? Is it Jesuses? Jesii? Jesuss? Or does one simple say ":a herd of ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 29, 2018:
According to a Google search (I already knew the info, but wanted support): The name Jesus used in the English New Testament comes from the Latin form of the Greek name Ἰησοῦς (Iēsous), a rendition of the Hebrew Yeshua (ישוע), related to the name Joshua. The name is thus related to the Hebrew verb root √yšʿ "rescue, deliver" and one of its noun forms, yešuaʿ "deliverance". In Latin, words ending in "us" are pluralized by adding "i," i.e. "cacti," but adding "es" is acceptable now. I dunno if a Latin form of a Greek word would do the same or not. Here are some opinions of "Jesuses" vs. "Jesi": https://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all=105x4471572
Everything I Like about Religion I Learned from an Atheist - TheHumanist.com
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
"If there isn’t a god to care for us then we have to care for each other." If everyone in the world understood that THIS IS IT, their attitudes would change and, I truly believe, we would work toward peace, ending hunger, and making life better for all. With no heavenly reward, we could strive to create "heaven" on earth. The warlords would still bluster, but I think that they would be shouted down.
High School Bullying
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
I was bullied from sixth grade until eleventh grade. In part, all of the kids from the wrong side of the track were bullied by the town kids, but even with in the subset, I was still bullied. I stopped going to school in tenth grade--my mother and the school could not make me go. We went to the middle of nowhere in Oklahoma for six months and the change of schools and the isolation made me introspective and stronger. When we returned to California, I could stand up for myself. It worked.
A nation who bullies children, I am so done with idiotic people, I have no polite veneer to offer ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
My polite veneer is reserved for people who don't piss me off. For some reason, they are always surprised when they do.
Dating Perceptions
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
Some men like one type of woman, some like another, and yet others, other types. Not all men can be categorized so widely and generally.
Jehovah's Witness was canvassing the neighborhood yesterday. I did not won't to talk to them so I ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
They haven't been by my house for a long time. The last time they were here, I gave a lecture about the history of Christianity. When I got to the Great Schism, their eyes were glazed over and they were willing to leave me alone. There is, however, a bunch of them who frequent a McD's where I go to sit and grade. They are quite friendly and only a couple of them have been silly enough to try to talk to me about converting--they are always newcomers to the group. One woman tried to tell me about JWs and I said I was not interested. When she asked "Why not?" I widened my eyes a bit and whispered, "Because I am a heathen." I don't think it was what I said, but how I said it. She boogied her large derriere away from me as quickly as she could.
Do you prefer using a fork or a spoon mostly? (and I mean with foods that either could be used) ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
Sporks are demon spawns.
Eating out alone?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
I eat lunch out, and alone, almost everyday; usually, I take my laptop to McD's and grade just to get out of the house. When I have dinner out, I am alone most of the time. Eating alone ceased to bother me about 25 years ago. Before that, I thought people were staring at me, thinking, poor woman, she has no friends or loved ones. They don't think that and never did--but if they did, so what?
Stop me, before I shop again! Hi, my name is Cat and I'm addicted to thrift store shopping.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
Someone remarked about saving money, but buying at thrift stores is not all about saving money. I collect vintage dishes and vintage furniture. I rarely buy clothes at thrift stores, but will buy miscellaneous items for my yard, pictures, etc. However, I do not buy as much as I used to because I have no room for more furniture and my interest in dishes has greatly waned. I still go on Saturday morning because is a routine, but rarely buy. Why are you addicted?
Does anyone else suffer from LoL addiction? I am very sarcastic, and sarcasm just doesn’t seem...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
What purpose does sarcasm serve for you that you use it so often?
Are you a jealous person ?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 28, 2018:
I was when I was younger, but no longer. Jealousy is fueled by insecurity, and I am not usually the one "insecure" in a relationship regardless of the type of relationship. I refuse to date a jealous man.
The decline of species by 2050--aren't Christians supposed to be God's caretakers? A panel of ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 27, 2018:
Oh, but remember: the rapture is coming soon, so no need to save the animals or conserve resources. On the other hand, remember Soylent Green. I would eat a person if he or she were a green cracker.
Was there a historical Jesus?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 26, 2018:
There are no concurrent accounts of Jesus.
I just read a great book called "Why there is no god" by Armin Navabi. I never knew that in the ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 26, 2018:
Interesting.
A good sentiment...in all types of relationships.... What's the longest time you've estranged ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
I left my husband of 25 years almost 20 years ago--there will be no reconciliation. I have found since then, though, that men whom I have truly been serious about tend to recycle. I dated the last one three different periods and we are still good friends.
Does My Dog Miss Me When I'm Gone? Or Do They Forget About Me?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
Yes, she misses you. I had a boyfriend who said that dogs have no concept of time and do not "miss" people. Yeah, they do. When my son and his wife left their dog with me when living in a motel for three months in a distant town (my daughter-in-law was training to be a restaurant manager), he sat by the window for the first month, looking out at the driveway. He stopped looking out the window when I moved, not because he stopped missing them.
Why English is so hard to learn -- A poem
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
The biggest reason for the irregular conjunctions and plurals is because the words do not have common histories and did not "evolve" from the same language. The silent "k" in knee, knife, and knight were enunciated in Anglo-Saxon, as was the "ght." English is a bastardized language and has been in flux for centuries, much more so than other languages.
What is the most painful thing you’ve endured? Me: Emergency appendectomy - my life was a ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
Issues with teeth. When I was 18, the nerves in my three front teeth "died." I did not have such excruciating pain again until my early 60s when a broken tooth decided that it needed to be fixed NOW. The pain was so bad that although it lasted only a day before the pain meds kicked in, I sometimes find myself not chewing on that side.
I was just wondering, are there any cancer survivors here? I'm coming up on 20 years cancer free, ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
My sister had breast cancer over 20 years ago but had a lumpectomy and radiation treatments. It came back about four years ago and metastasized in her bones. She in remission, though, and the original two years the doctor gave her is now an indefinite number. She, our extended family (except for my sons) and her friends are religious. When she has a PET scan and posts the results (always positive, so far), everyone posts, "Thank god!" Then, scroll on down to Gwen's post that says, "Thank doctors and medical science." I would nod, smile, and say, "I put my faith in science."
How do you make friends? Do you randomly talk to anyone, or are you selective?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
I talk to many people when I am in public, but I don't make friends. I like going home alone and I like being alone. I am a bit of an oxymoron: a friendly misanthrope.
Why are we hated for hating xmas?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
I celebrate the winter solstice and the return of spring. Both Xmas and Easter (named after Eostre/Ostara, a goddess) are pagan anyway.
50 & Up
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 24, 2018:
This has not been my experience. I lost 100 pounds between the ages of 43-45, going from 250 to 150. I gained back about 35 pounds by the time I was 59ish and knew it was time to take action once again. I lost the 35 in 4-5 months and have maintained 150-153 for the last five years (I am 65). I lost the weight by eating less and eating more sensibly. I also exercised more (which is easy to do in the summer, not so easy for me in the winter). I am in better shape at 65 than I was at 43 and in better shape than most people half my age or even younger. Largely, obesity is a choice, plain and simple. The number of people who are obese due to medical issues is a small percentage.
9-5 work week is done, work weekend has begun. Hope everyone enjoys their weekend - wherever you ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 23, 2018:
I work online and I work everyday. I could get it all done during the week, but I prefer to spread it out.
I was reading, Why Women Need Freedom from Religion and came across this bible verse. Color me ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
NIV version: 16 The Lord says, “The women of Zion are haughty, walking along with outstretched necks, flirting with their eyes, strutting along with swaying hips, with ornaments jingling on their ankles. 17 Therefore the Lord will bring sores on the heads of the women of Zion; the Lord will make their scalps bald.” It leaves out "discover their secret parts, but the ESV says: "and the Lord will lay bare their secret parts." It seems that the last line means "that God would humble and punish them; that they who so adorned themselves, and who were so proud of their ornaments, would be divested of their joyful attire, and be borne naked into captivity in a foreign land." http://biblehub.com/commentaries/isaiah/3-17.htm A rather harsh punishment for wearing tinkling bells and flirting, especially from a religion that interprets "an eye for an eye" as the punishment should not be greater than the crime.
Something interesting...I was looking on-line ([www.allabout] science.org where it explains Social ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
That's like the fake $20 bills they leave laying around in stores and leave as tips for servers.
Had Mark Anthony Condit been a guy named Mohammad or Omar, how differently would the media be ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
That's a rhetorical question if I have ever heard one. We all know the answer to that!
During my workout this morning, I overheard a trainer (non-freethinker) talk to his charge about how...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
Gad. Don't try logic on them--they don't understand. I have a cousin who claimed that god did not let a tornado hit a town in which she and her husban where having dinner until after they left. So, god hated everyone else in the town but loved my cousin? Uh-huh.
Have you ever met a "flat earther"?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
Oh, come on! The earth is flat--I put a marble in the middle of the Walmart parking lot and it did not roll. If the earth were round, that sucker would have started rolling and never stopped.
Can food have negative calories? | Examine.com
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
Yes, there is much misinformation, and "negative" calories is misinformation. When I was a teen, I knew people who drank unsweetened grapefruit juice because it "burned" calories. That was misinformaiton, too. I have the sneak suspicion that this is a spam post, intended to recruit people for this "diet." I used to weigh 250 pounds. I have had it off for 20 years. If anyone wants to know how to lose weight, ask me--and I won't charge a nickel.
Any teachers out there?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
I am another online adjunct. I used to teach seated courses at a local community college, but teach for them online now along with two other schools. I also have a California teaching credential (now lapsed) and subbed there for seven years. Between three schools, I support myself well and I like the flexibility of online. At this stage in my life, I don't want a full-time position. I taught online first for the local school and went all online for them about four years ago (I have been there 16 years). I picked up one of my schools eight years ago and the other, four or five years ago. It is a lot harder to get a position online than it used to be, or that has been my experience.
I believe in the universe, the millions and millions of stars. We'll never know the answers to ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
Spot on.
I'm so glad I'm not on FB anymore! I miss some things, like friends from school but not much. I ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
FB is like anything else: it is what one makes of it. I have few friends from childhood as friends and most of them are a "courtesy" in light of our shared background as I have little in common with them. I tend not to friend people whom I do not know (who needs 1,000 friends?), but I have some long time online friends I have known for up to 20 years but never met. I have quite a few former students, a few colleagues, friends from where I lived in CA, and several relatives. People should not take FB so seriously.
Donald Trump is a lazy, not too bright, and weak coward. These characteristics in him draw him to ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
Well, yeah. It's just too bad that his followers don't see it!
A girl on another board asked why atheists are so negative and abrasive. I answered her with this:...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
I tend to avoid negative and abrasive people in general, atheists included.
The thing that bothers me about christianity is that most of it is centered around the afterlife. ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
This is why Marx said that religion is the opium of the masses. People are willing, or brainwashed, into believing there is a pie in the sky so that they will accept substandard conditions here on Earth: a reward waits for them. When I was a practicing pagan, I was discussing reincarnation with an elderly neighbor. I said that I would enjoy being reincarnated and she said there was NO WAY that she wanted to come back to this torturous plane of existence. It is easy for those of us who enjoy a good standard of living to say that others have not learned the beauty of the present, but to the chronically ill (physically and emotionally) those who live in abject poverty or under an oppressive regime (the US is getting there), it is hard to appreciate the beauty of the earth and the cosmos. On the other hand, if there were no concept of heaven, maybe more people would work together to make life better for all.
Is it really what’s in the inside that counts? How important is appearance? Does it play any role,...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
Appearance has always played a role in the choice of a mate and attraction. Most likely, standards of "beauty" arose because they were associated with health. Clear skin, good hair, large breasts denoted fertility. Tall and muscled men indicated better hunters. Standards of beauty vary from culture to culture, era to era, and person to person, but yeah, looks matter, and if anyone says differently, they are clueless. Personality and intelligence play a part, but it is appearance that establishes the original attraction. Whether or not appearance ***should*** play a role is almost moot because it does. In addition, when one prefers a certain physical type, it is hard to force a sexual attraction for someone other type (though "chemistry" can be surprising). I am not sexually attracted to obese men or thin men and trying to feel romantic toward a man who weighs 400 pounds ain't gonna work.
Is chivalry SEXIST???
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 21, 2018:
Opening doors is not chivalric: it is common courtesy. I open doors for men and women--does that me chivalric? And yes, the aspects of "chivalry" as mentioned above are sexist; they might be "innocently" sexist, but they are still sexist. A man most often pays for dinner because in the past, women did not work and had no money to pay. The ability to pay also established a man as a good provider, but now, women can support themselves. However, if a man paying is agreeable to both parties, that is up to them. A man was the pursuer because women were expected to be passive, letting the man take the lead. In sexual situations, the man took the lead because the woman was supposed to be sexually inexperienced, but men enjoyed a double standard. Although women were seen as the sexually voracious sex for centuries, the Victorian Era changed this idea. However, even before Victoria, men were still the pursuers in the courtship competitions. Socially defined gender stereotypes are sexist by default. Chivalry was the hallmark of the Arthurian myths, but the knights were quite often not so gentlemanly. Lancelot (a latecomer to the myths) had an affair with Guenivere and had an illegitimate son (Galahad) with Elaine. Even when Arthur slept with his sister, Morgana, the blame was put on her. By the way, the old adage "women and children" first in a dangerous situtation was based on the fact that women and children were/are the promise for the future. After a disaster, ten women and two men have a much better chance of repopulating than do two women and ten men. It was biological necessity to save the women, not chivalry.
Hypatia [m.ranker.com]
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
Whenever I feel angry for seemingly no reason, it is almost always associated with Hypatia or the burning of the Alexandrian Library. I want to puke when I hear Xtians talk about early Xtians getting fed to the lions. (Deep breath, Gwen, deep breath.)
Learning how to teach how to learn
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
There are several obstacles to education improvement. One is that education has become political. When a bitchass like Betsy Devos can be Secretary of Education, it is quite clear that the adminsitration does not care about educating children or adults. Another is the unwillingness to change the status quo. Why do we not have year 'round school for children? There are more, but I will stop there because I am getting angry. (I am an educator--I teach college now, but I also have an elementary teaching degree.)
In all our time on earth as humans we've created 1000s of so-called God's, I query. What makes man ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
In the Mideast and the West, at least, because humans create deities in order to justify getting what they want and to justify their own way of thinking. When Hebrews made their supposed exodus from Egypt "back" to Canaan to commit genocide, it "sounded" better to claim the land was given to them by god than to say, "Hey, we want your land and we're taking it." Want to subjugate women? Rationalize it with a myth. Want to own slaves? Jusitfy it with myth. Want the riches of the Mideast? Explain that god commanded you to go on a crusade. Not all religions insist on being THE one, though-- many pagan religions were openly syncretic; Judaism and Christianity tried to deny their syncretism. I have never heard of a Taoist or Buddhist trying to conquer the world.
Today I was encouraged to donate a sum of money to one of the local foodbank/shelter. I hesitated ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
I haven't had this experience, but I refuse to donate to a charity that religiously based. I once told someone soliciting money outside Walmart that I was atheist and did not support religious groups. She asked, "So, you don't support battered women?" I explained to her that there were other groups who worked with battered women who were not religiously affiliated. She tried to guilt me! No, won't work.
Personally, I can't be a vegetarian or vegan. Meat, cheese, and ice cream taste way too good. But I ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
Oh, you COULD be a vegan or vegetarian, but you choose not to. It is a matter of choice, not ability. I was a vegan for three months and a vegetarian for three years. I still do not eat cows or pigs: my choice, and yours.
Today's atheists are bullies -- and they are doing their best to intimidate the rest of us into ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
Some atheists are bullies, but the Christian bullies far, far, far, far, far outnumber them.
The probability of crackling conversations and both delightful and indelicate debates can be had ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
Slim to none--just like on other sites.
The job search. So I was offered a position today for a minimum wage job, full time, some ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
Take the job.
Even though we have each other on this site. Does anyone ever feel that they have been shunned by ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
No.
I have come across some aspects of talking to plants has an effect on them, is this pseudoscience or...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
Why not ask a plant? I venture to guess that people who talk to their plants take better care of them than those who do not.
As a gay man I grow increasingly tired of the seemingly shallow attitude in the dating pool. It seem...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 20, 2018:
Yeah, well, welcome to the real world!
Does Evil exist?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
"Evil" is subjective, but it exists. Most of us would agree that Hitler was evil. Jeffrey Dahmer might have been confused, but he was evil. Lesser "evils" are more subjective, but most cultures agree on the bigs ones or variations thereof. Evil changes over time, too; pedophiles are mentally ill, but "evilly" so, but in some ancient cultures, it was accepted. So was rape.
How religion has affected the rights of females.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
Christianity origingally gained in popularity because it allowed women and slaves into its ranks. Despite Paul's seemingly apparent misogyny, the passages relegating women to subservience might have been written by a pseudo-Paul. Since heaven allowed both women and slaves to enter, it gave solace to two oppressed segments of society--poor men was another. In a world where one was treated VERY badly, the promise of a pleasant life after death was comforting. The more dogmatic Christianity became, the more misogynistic it became. Don't EVEN get me going on The Malleus Maleficarum and other tomes that literally made women in the devil. Of course, Aristotle is no better.
If God wanted people to believe in him, he'd simply appear in a vision to the whole world ---- and ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
If "he" exists, he doesn't care. Isn't that the position of the gnostics?
I am a science fiction and fantasy genre nut! Do religious peoples have a similar affinity? ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
Orson Scott Card is one of the best sci-fi writers around, and he is Mormon
Do theists understand the historical context of their ancient texts?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
Not necessarily. Christian apologetics make up reasons to debunk information about religious history, i.e. dinosaur bones were planted by the devil to confuse humans. Another specifically related to religion is that the myth of the dying and resurrecting deity was also concocted by Satan before Christ's birth to fool people. Most theists, however, are blissfully unaware of the history of their religion.
Can true feminism ever be achieved?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
I have no idea about sports and, frankly, do not care. Although a pay gap still exists and women make less money than do men, more women than men are getting college degrees. https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2017/08/why-men-are-the-new-college-minority/536103/ If this trend continues, the paradigm could shift and in the near future. On the other hand, with the present sexist, anti-woman administration, who knows?
Do you judge people base on how they look, talk, act, and how much money they make? If so why
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
It depends. I do not suffer fools gladly, so yeah, it makes a difference how people talk and act. If someone wants to be a friend, money and looks do not matter. If someone wants more than friendship, I am attracted to attractive men (yes, I am shallow); he also needs to support himself. I supported a man and I have been supported: neither will happen again.
Erectile Dysfunction: A Question for Women and Gay Men
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
There are other ways to have sex. Just sayin'.
I believe the writers of the bible[new & old] were useing mind altering drug's such as magic ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
Maybe. However, the myths of the Hebrew and Christians were taken from earlier religions. Robert Graves says that the maenads ingested mushrooms before they took their riotous runs through the countryside--ergot might be another explanation. Many cultures used various psychedelics. .
Monogamy
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
Neither males nor females are monogamous by nature. If we were, none of us would have have an affair. In particular, women were fed the line that we are monogamous while men are not. It was the validation for polygamy. Polygamy was really just a way to show wealth and for men to ensure that they were spreading their seed as much as possible.
God's don't kill people; people with God's kill people.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
People kill people--it isn't just god believers.
You ever notice that caterpillars are okay for boys to play with and like... But butterflies are for...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
First time I ever heard caterpillars were for boys and butterflies were for girls.
I would be interested in hearing what what the group thinks about this question: Is there a ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 18, 2018:
Yes, there is a difference. While facts are "truths," truth can be more subjective (as is my interpreation). For example, take the myth of Persephone and Demeter in which the undying love of a parent is expressed. Demeter refuses to stop looking for her daughter despite great odds. This expresses "a" truth about humans, but there are no facts within the myth. The truth is also not universal as not all parents are as dedicated and some parents kill their offspring. The danger can be see in the syllogism: Demeter searches for her daughter and does not give up/Demeter is a parent/Therefore, all parents are dedicated to the children. "A" truth is not the same as "The Truth."
Happy St. Patrick's Day to everybody on this site. Sláinte.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 17, 2018:
St. Patrick was a Catholic who ran the "snakes" out of Ireland. Snakes symbolize the indigenous pagans and that is whom he really tried to convert or "run" out. The irony is that the pagans didn't leave, and those who professed to convert weren't 100% about it. It is fitting that their ancestors get drunk and commit all sorts of sins to celebrate this holy day. And mixing the pagan leprechaun in with a saint is blasphemy. Hail to thee, Goddess Brigit, the true "saint" of Ireland.
Is there a quote/idea/notion you live by and if so what is it?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 17, 2018:
This, too, shall pass.
What is your Heaven?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 17, 2018:
Green fields, green woods, summer for seven months of the year, two of spring/autumn, and one of winter. Rich dirt, a dog, the ocean on one side, a couple of rivers flowing into it, and creeks in the woods and fields. A spring flows from a rock face, the fey bring food to me, and I live alone--though people can visit, they don't live next door. I could on, but I'll stop there.
Without religion, what keeps morality from being completely subjective? (Please note:. This is not ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 17, 2018:
"Morality" is completely subjective. Most cultures have a standard set of ethics that jibe--do not murder, do not steal, do not lie--and they grew out of the need to get along within a culture. But even those are subjective; I have never met a Christian who did not subjectively interpret aspects of the Hebrew and Christian Scriptures, so the argument that they are the "keepers" of morailty is erroneous.
I have a question for anyone who wished to respond. Do you feel obligated sometimes to defend your ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 17, 2018:
Do you mean my lack of beliefs? I feel no "obligation" to defend what I believe or do not believe. I am quite willing to explain how I reached this place to people who are geniunely interested but not to those who want to hear in order to tell me that I am wrong. What's the point?
Do you accept the possibility of a god, but reject man’s perspective of one?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 17, 2018:
IF "deity" exists, it is nothing as humans conceive it. Humans make gods in our image, not the other way 'round.
I was wondering if there are many in this forum that is interested in the history of religion. I've ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 17, 2018:
Jewish myth is based on Egyptian and Sumerian myth. The flood is lifted directly from *The Epic of Gilgamesh*. God spoke the universe into being and that is from Egyptian myth (they believed that something could not exist without a name). All religions build on that which preceded them. The dying and resurrecting deity was first recorded in Sumeria (Inanna) and Egypt (Osiris) and picked up by Greece and many other mythoi. The myth of Demeter searching for Persephone has the same theme and even a duplicate scene (where the goddesses try to make a child immortal). Jesus is a johnny come lately to this myth. Heaven is highly Platonic and the idea of being judged started in Egypt. Jesus fits the hero archetype that began with Gilgamesh. I could go on for hours. Myth is one of my passions.
In my opinion, the only reason that people fear death is the religious hellfire and damnation myth....
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 16, 2018:
Disagree. I never feared death because of hellfire but because the thought of not existing terrified me. Logically, I knew that I would not be aware of not existing, but it was not enough to assuage my fears.
How do you feel about Zeke Emanuel's view that after 75 serious medical treatment is a waste of the ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 16, 2018:
Bullshit. That's what I think. If we are going to medically treat people for their "usefulness" or not, why wait until they are 75? I known quite a few people who have been useless for many years and some of them were never useful.
What is the meaning of life?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 15, 2018:
The purpose of live is to procreate and then, stay alive long enough to make sure one's offspring procreates. Anything else is mental mastrubation.
Best book
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Mar 15, 2018:
How can anyone choose ONE best book?

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