Exactly.

"You seem to be telling men that you're open to meeting somebody but you are so accomplished you don't need anyone." THIS is what you need to learn to understand. Strong women don't NEED another person to complete them; though they may WANT someone to spend time with. Being particular in what you desire is known as being discerning.

Asking people to READ is not a matter of "shaming" anyone. I wouldn't message someone who's profile I hadn't read, or someone who was clearly not interested in someone like me. Claiming that we are compatible based on just a picture demonstrates extreme shallowness. I know what I'm looking for, and don't need anyone's approval.

@tucsonkosmicgirl Alrighty then.

She's jyst angry because she has not been lucky in love ?

I'm not interested. Others may be, but my decisions are mine.

@VAL3941 Where did you discern anger in that post? Do you deem every women who is firm in her convictions as angry?

@Cricket9
Did you not discern the lightness in the remark ? Sorry I did not put a smiley behind it !

For someone who accused the original post of evincing anger, you certainly are heavy on the exclamation points. Perhaps you should take your own advice and cool down.

@Cricket9
Ok. Will do and thanks .

That's because I've devoted 26 years of my life to teaching students. Thus the reason I want to spend my time with other academics.

@tucsonkosmicgirl I've spent most of my adult playing music for a living, but most of my friends are not musicians. That makes for a very cloistered and uninteresting life. While there is knowledge to be found in books, there is very little life. Like Woody Allen said, "Those that can't do teach, those that can't teach, teach gym." ☺

@Sticks48 : And those who use cliches are frequently unimaginative and uncreative. I'm perfectly happy with my fun academic friends.

@tucsonkosmicgirl l have been around academic people. A lot of cliches are based on facts. That is how they become cliches. Some change as they become out dated, because truths can change. ☺

If one is too lazy to read a profile, then one is not worth investing time.

I love that expression 'my wife liberated me'. I can relate completely. I first came across the idea, not the expression, in a book called 'The Chimney Sweeper's Boy' about a woman who was married to a closet homosexual for decades. He manipulated their two daughters against her. When he dies, the book surprised me by describing how free she felt after years of his abuse. Surprised, because everyone expects widowed people to be miserable. The same can apply to separated people.

@brentan Well described . I can recall the feeling of being weightless , of gliding through the air , when I separated from my husband and more specifically got free of his mother , as if a great weight had been lifted from me .