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Mr Bourdain. My thoughts

There have been negative comments about the matter of celebrity suicide.

I'm not sure feeling strong emotion against celebrities who take their own lives helps much. What can we say, 'Hey, celebrities, don't suicide because it sets a bad example'. When they do they're not celebrities, just people in crisis like everyone else.

My reaction to celebrity suicide is somewhat unusual. First, I would never judge that person. I dislike people who criticise and judge that person, like when Robin Williams died. No one has that right. We remember what the person achieved, but not judge them on their decision. Walk in another person's shoes, as they say. I don't know much about Mr Bourdain and his issues so can't comment. I do know I'm close to him in age, and with many more days behind than ahead, and realization that it only gets harder from here, can weigh heavily. Some in this world choose to leave at a time of their choosing. I do get that.

Secondly, it does occur to me that celebrities with wealth who end their lives are the saddest of all. Those of us who get by with the minimum, who dream of things we could do if we had serious money, can at least dream of that. But a wealthy person, who cannot even imagine how their wealth might be used to change their lives, to help others, to reinvent themselves, or do a myriad of things that wealth provides in this world, has not even that to dream of anymore.

That, to his atheist, who would like to do so much more if I had the means, is indeed sad.

David1955 8 June 9
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yes, i get you. sadness.

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I really don't see the point in glorifying the experience of celebrities compared to other people's - I don't care anymore for a president's death than for anyone else's. If anything, I'd be more interested in knowing whether the specificities that help become a celebrity (like single-mindedness or narcissism) has an effect on suicide rates of people with those traits.

MarcO Level 5 June 9, 2018
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I absolutely agree with the first part of your post. Celebrity status means nothing.
I disagree about having wealth making any difference. Money doesn't matter to
personal demons.
Wealthy people, who have succumbed to their thoughts of ending their lives, have used their wealth to help others, and do the things many of us only dream of. It wasn't enough. Again, money doesn't matter to demons.
People like Anthony Bourdain, Robin Williams, Ernest Hemingway, and others, were no different than anyone else who struggles with mental illness. Their wealth and fame made no difference. It never does.
Even those who have sought help (rich or poor) sometimes end up being too exhausted to continue the fight. It's not "cowardice", as some always inaccurately claim, it's sheer fucking exhaustion.
I am saddened by their loss, but not angry with them, or judgmental of them,
for deciding to end their internal pain. We all have different thresholds for how
much we can handle.

I see your point. I'm influenced by my knowledge of people who do take their own lives because of financial reasons, unemployment, debt, financial ruin and alike. It happens a lot. Money would literally save them. For me, those of wealth who take their own lives, excluding other factors like illness, seem particularly sad as they have the means to change their circumstances that many others do not and would wish to have. But I do accept that complex psychology applies here.

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Well said.

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Very true

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