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Do you have to lead a structured life ?

By Wildgreens
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Structured lives make us feel safe, but they are also stultifying.

Ellatynemouth Level 8 June 13, 2018
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I have to, because I'm so scatterbrained and live inside my head so much, that I need structure to keep me grounded.

tnorman1236 Level 8 June 13, 2018
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A clean, organized home calms and pleases me.

I plan ahead. Never rush off scatterbrained, driving until running out of gas with no money, like a man I met.

Routines: Volunteer college mentor. Hiking twice/week. Weightlifting. Running. Stretching.

Spray Sawyer Permrethrin insect repellent on my hiking clothes, hat and gear. It lasts through six washings. This odorless spray kills and repels ticks, mosquitoes and 33 other biting/stinging insects.

Keep my hiking boots waterproofed. Also polish and waterproof leather boots and shoes. This makes them last longer and look sharp.

As an organized, high energy person, I get a lot done.

LiterateHiker Level 7 June 13, 2018
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Welcome to the club of the boring and disciplined (those are not my words but is how some people see us).

@JackPedigo
My life is fun! Not boring.

@LiterateHiker Kathleen, you don't have to convince me. I feel the same about being organized. That's why I said "how SOME people see US".

Kathleen, This was my comment to this posting: Without structure I could not cope. Planned meal times and some activities (like being on this site). There is some room for non-planned activities but I even have a time set aside for this. Unpredictability tends to stress me. I have been called boring but really couldn't care.

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As a single, 80 year old retiree, living alone, definitely not.

jlynn37 Level 8 June 12, 2018
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My childhood if anything has made me want stability, structure, control and routine because I never really had it. I only realized how much it meant when I moved back with my family and lost it, that the clinical depression I keep at bay came roaring back with a vengeance. I'm trying to roll with it around here, but it's fucking tough.

Stepmomofdragons Level 6 June 13, 2018
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I have to be structured. Otherwise I can't accomplish things.

Kassie Level 6 June 13, 2018
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That depends. I have lots of little routines and some more general structure that helps to make life feel comfortable and familiar. I like a measure of consistency and predictability in my life. But on the other hand I almost never make firm plans and tend to follow my own road on a lot of things. I cannot stand the idea of following a strict set of religious beliefs or rules for example. So my answer is probably mostly yes but also no smile007.gif

Introverted Level 6 June 13, 2018
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Not really. It is one of a few reasons l chose a life in music. ☺

Sticks48 Level 8 June 13, 2018
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I assume I have to, if no other reason than I am a high school science teacher. I live by bells and schedules. It used drive my ex- nuts and I can't say I blame her. She liked unplanned spontaneity (sorry, redundant) and my structured lifestyle contrasted with that. I am a softer style of Type-A personality. If I am not at my appointment 5 min. early, Im already late (for example).

t1nick Level 6 June 12, 2018
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I can understand that. 🤗

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What do you mean by "a structured life"? Sticking to an organized schedule or routine? Living by others' rules? Not being too spontaneous?

I live cautiously, even conservatively in a lot of ways, but I'm far from being conformist in my behavior, e.g.:

  • non-theistic (negative atheist)
  • vegetarian (sometimes fully plant-based diet)
  • anti-natalist
  • uncoupled & sexually abstinent for many years
  • almost never drink alcohol, and never to excess
  • have been known to drive 57 in a 55 mph zone
resserts Level 8 June 12, 2018
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No SEX?🤐

@BucketlistBob ’Tis overrated.

@resserts - you're doing it wrong, lol

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YES! Absolutely! Structured to your own personal taste...do things your way...one day all will go black....(or will it?)....no, but seriously it will go black....

goldenvalleyguy Level 7 June 12, 2018
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I'm a business owner, so yes, there is necessary weekly structure in my work routines, but as far as life in general, sometimes yes but then I always embrace spontaneity and chaos.

The only exception I guess would be my daily coffee rituals......

Suffolkian Level 5 June 13, 2018
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Structured but flexible; I'd like more structure but I have to take work when I get get it and have health issues to work around too so I'm more reactive than I'd prefer.

NickNakorn Level 6 June 13, 2018
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Without structure I could not cope. Planned meal times and some activities (like being on this site). There is some room for non-planned activities but I even have a time set aside for this. Unpredictability tends to stress me.

JackPedigo Level 8 June 13, 2018
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No, do what works for you. I like to live a structured life. My stuff is organized, finances under control, and have a daily routine. If any sense of order is disrupted, no worries. I adapt

Rudy008 Level 3 June 13, 2018
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I hope not! I abhor structure for the most part, but understand that for society to function, there needs to be some synchronization. Rushing to meet arbitrarily set deadlines is the bain of my existence.

Zster Level 7 June 13, 2018
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I much prefer structure, but am just not very good at it!

StJohn Level 6 June 13, 2018
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At this point in my life, yes, i must live a structured life. I'm not retired yet and the job requires structure. In a few years, when hopefully i can retire there will be somewhat less structure. Though having seen friends who retire and impose no structure on that life and what happens... It ain't pretty or productive or even satisfying that i can see. So probably there will always be done structure for me.

moonmaid Level 7 June 13, 2018
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I prefer structure, but it can get a little stagnant. Luckily, change is constant.

Donotbelieve Level 8 June 13, 2018
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'everybody needs a routine of some sort', don't they? Most teach it to their children despite something here called 'free range kids', which suggests to me, it will be forced on you by wrong choices, accidents etc.

tellyrus Level 5 June 13, 2018
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Yeah, kinda have to on work days. If I don't set aside time for personal study, exercise, meditation then it will never happen on workdays.

Days off aren't very structured though.

Michael_D Level 4 June 13, 2018
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Not if I can help it.

Silver1wun Level 7 June 13, 2018
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Hell no !   I am retired damnit !

VAL3941 Level 8 June 13, 2018
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No need for structure. 🤗

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@Wildgreens
Thats right, no need for it and don't think I ever aporoved of it either ?

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Not since I retired the military but a living in partner changes all that.

GipsyOfNewSpain Level 8 June 13, 2018
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Thank you for your service, sir!

@TheGreatShadow You welcome. Best decision I ever made.

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Nope... you can pick up and leave anytime you want if your rich and famous like me..... yeah right🤣. Or you can be structured and plan everything down to the last detail.

BucketlistBob Level 8 June 12, 2018
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There are no rules in how to go about this. 🤗🤗😂

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