I am 80 years old and single for 50 years. I am here for community and to meet women, make friends and to see what can happen within that friendship, nothing more. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Why isn't it socially acceptable on the first date to just hand each other questionnaires you've filled out about what's important to you so you don't waste your time? Like I met a guy that wants to move to New Zealand one day. Thank god I didn't ask him out. Who knows how much time I would have wasted just to realise I have to either change my whole world or make him give up his dream for me? It would just be nice to get the kids, religion, politics, goals questions over with without having to subtly and gently ease the conversation towards the things that really matter.
jlynn37 comments:
As far as I know, it is socially acceptable, it is just never done.
So what is the solution to the online dating fiasco? Now that we have read articles, have shared experiences on various posts and agreed that there is a problem with online dating; lets discuss solutions. Does anyone have any ideas on how to fix the problems with online dating?
jlynn37 comments:
I have been on the internet and on dating sites for 23 years and I know from experience what can happen here. I have no issue with online dating sites and nothing needs to be fixed. The internet is an adult playground for role playing, fantasy games, scammers and just about anything else you can imagine. Accept it for what it is and see what can happen. It is free to try, you have total control of what you do here and no one is under any obligation to anyone else. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Your mileage may vary.
Congrats to all of you for seeing that the ideas presented by organized religion are a load of steaming ****. But I do not understand the certainty that some atheists have that a "god" does not and could not exist. If there were a god (or higher power as I like to say), why would it be required to make its presence known, or remove injustice and cruelty from this world? That is one of the mistakes reliious people make...trying to view god in human terms. Just because their version is nonsense, why must we then say that any idea of a higher power is impossible. Also, if your knowledge that no god exists is based on the fact that science has no indication of it (let alone proof), then by logical extension, electrons and protons did not exist a thousand years ago because science had no inkling of such things. If any nonexistence certainty atheist out there could enlighten me, I would gladly consider your thoughts.
jlynn37 comments:
There has never been any evidence, facts or data to indicate that any god(s), deities, "higher power", supernatural exists and until some verifiable evidence, facts or data is produced, then said god(s), deities, "higher power", supernatural does not exist. In My Humble Opinion. ETA: "What can be asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence". Hitchen's Razor "Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence" Carl Sagan
How do you handle talking to a parent when they are politically opposite of you?
jlynn37 comments:
Just say "I refuse to talk about politics". If he still persists, just walk away and out of his presence.
In a recent post I mentioned to watch the religious zealots blame the shootings on a lack of prayer in schools..
jlynn37 comments:
They have to blame it on something since they have no intention of doing anything about it.
Does anyone else struggle with feelings of despair? The older I get, the more my heart is broken by the human race in general. I'm worn down by the pervasiveness of religious superstition, science denial, political division, racism, subjugation of the masses, and the continuing - seemingly unstoppable - worldwide rise of oligarchy and nationalism. I focus my energy on other things as much as I can. I've given up on attempting to sway anyone's opinions about anything. People have stopped listening. It's got me down today. I'm feeling a little isolated.
jlynn37 comments:
I can certainly relate to everything you stated in your OP. I pretty much have disconnected from the human situation on this planet as much as possible. It is just ignoring the almost hopelessness of the situation however.
How do you feel about profanity in music?
jlynn37 comments:
I don't care for profanity ANYWHERE. ETA: I use some profanity myself on occasion but only when I am by myself.
Social conservatives like to make the argument that being gay is a choice. Well it's not a choice and there's hard science to prove it. That being said, I have to pose this question: why would it matter even if it WAS a choice? I have to question rightwingers' motivation on this one. Because by 'choice' they are implying that one of the choices is the wrong choice which is bullshit.
jlynn37 comments:
Every human has the right of choice regarding ANYTHING as long as it harms no one or denies another their freedoms and right of choice.
Is ignorance bliss?
jlynn37 comments:
It may be bliss but it is a very ignorant state of being and existence.
The Dalai Lama said, and I paraphrase, it is not necessarily helpful to believe in god to be a practicing Buddhist. Thoughts?
jlynn37 comments:
It is my understanding that Buddhist do not believe in a god. Buddha is NOT a god. They believe in attaining enlightenment through certain stages. But who am I to question the Dalai Lama.
Hidden Gems found on a road trip. Have you ever been on a road trip and come across something spectacular that you did not even know was there? A friend and I were on a road trip from Central Illinois to Memphis Tennessee. We decided to get off the interstates and take a scenic route through Kentucky. I am interested in the Civil War and had previously been to Gettysburg a couple of times, but that was the extent of my Civil War site experience. We saw a sign for a park built on the site of a Civil War fort in Columbus, KY, so we followed the signs. We found out that there was a Civil War fort on that site that was constructed by the Confederates. They strung a huge chain across the Mississippi River to a site near Belmont, MO. Their intent was to snag northern ships bearing troops and supplies (I am not kidding!) If we had not decided to take a more scenic route, never would've experienced it. Here is a link to the site: http://columbusky.com/old-columbus-kentucky.php "What is the best road trip you have ever made? I have done a few, and think my favorite was ..."
jlynn37 comments:
For me, nothing beats nature for the most awesome sites to see and can be found most everywhere. Your mileage may vary.
Can someone recommend a good movie to watch on Netflix or Hulu tonight. It's raining and I've made a pot of chili. It's a good movie night.
jlynn37 comments:
"NELL" with Jodie Foster if you have not seen it. have a dry crying towel if you watch it.
"How can you be a moral person and be an atheist?" I get asked by Christians. Friends who are atheists get asked the same. thing. It t is rude and tiresome. Being a good person is a choice. Today I received this message on another dating site: "I really like your playful, creative, giving being. You're more "spiritual" than most religious people. I'm curious how an "atheist" can live that way." I would never hassle Christians about their faith. Christians who don't know me often insist that I explain: 1. Why I am an atheist. 2. How the universe began (as if being an atheist automatically makes me an astrophysicist). "Nobody knows," I reply. "Science is advancing more every year." 3. What happens when people die. "Nobody knows," I reply. 4. What is spirituality? I don't have to justify my lack of belief in an invisible deity to anyone. Your thoughts?
jlynn37 comments:
Morality is doing what is right regardless of what you are told. Religion is doing what you are told regardless of what is right.
"How can you be a moral person and be an atheist?" I get asked by Christians. Friends who are atheists get asked the same. thing. It t is rude and tiresome. Being a good person is a choice. Today I received this message on another dating site: "I really like your playful, creative, giving being. You're more "spiritual" than most religious people. I'm curious how an "atheist" can live that way." I would never hassle Christians about their faith. Christians who don't know me often insist that I explain: 1. Why I am an atheist. 2. How the universe began (as if being an atheist automatically makes me an astrophysicist). "Nobody knows," I reply. "Science is advancing more every year." 3. What happens when people die. "Nobody knows," I reply. 4. What is spirituality? I don't have to justify my lack of belief in an invisible deity to anyone. Your thoughts?
jlynn37 comments:
“Religion is an insult to human dignity. Without it you would have good people doing good things and evil people doing evil things. But for good people to do evil things, that takes religion.” ? Steven Weinberg
Names can be tricky things. People here in Appalachia still try to use them to ID gender, sometimes with amusing results. LAst year, for instance, we got two new transit drivers, one male and and one female. The female was named Jo and the male was named Carrol, causing much confusion for awhile. And I've known men here named Marion and Wilma. So you can't judge a person's gender (or lack thereof, given that some are nonbinary) by their name. Just sayin....
jlynn37 comments:
I am native of Harlan, KY. Appalachia is part of me.
Did you arrive at your decision of belief by means of research and critical thinking or merely personal feeling?
jlynn37 comments:
Neither. For me it was simply observing reality and how Nature works and how religion doesn't work.
Loneliness
jlynn37 comments:
I think having a hobby that you enjoy will make you forget your loneliness. Just getting out of my house and enjoying being in nature is good for me.
I see a lot of debate and memes on Facebook about guns. In my opinion, we will not change gun laws in America anytime soon. "The belief among many Americans in the right to bear arms is an article of faith. That right, moreso even than the arms themselves, is part of the idea of America that they were born and raised to believe in. The idea of freedom, of the individual’s supremacy over government and of the need to resist any imagined tyranny that might be around the corner." Many say it is a mental health issue, but our response has been to cut funding to mental health services. So, I don't think collectively we really believe this is true. So, we'll wait until the next event, and we will continue to debate, and we will do nothing.
jlynn37 comments:
Gun owners always reference their second amendment rights. If that is their go to for gun ownership, then I think they should be required to register as a member of an established militia, participate in that militia, and be available for immediate call up when a need is declared, as that is a defining part of the 2nd. Just sayin'
Mystery: Who is this? I saw this on the back end of a car while we were waiting at a light. I have no idea who this is and I am perplexed.
jlynn37 comments:
OMG, jebbus on an automobile bumper. I'm a convert.
How do I back out gracefully?
jlynn37 comments:
To start with, unfollow her or stop going to her FB page. Take a 1 or 2 day trip to see how it will work out.
To all the old men like me (over 60): Don’t you love and hate this group at the same time? Love, because we didn’t get to be a part of this technology in our youth, and hate because we didn’t get to be a part of this technology in our youth?
jlynn37 comments:
Not me. I find it so much easier to just go with the flow. Your mileage may vary.
I'm currently struggling with some stuff and someone made the comment that "if I had a husband,I wouldn't have to worry about those things" (ugh) . In my experience whenever a man's involved himself in my life things go worse than they do when I'm taking care of business myself.I swear I'm not over here trying to start a man haters club. Men are cool and I'm currently trying to raise two decent ones. I'm wondering if it's just me that feels like men make life more difficult for women,as a rule. What are your experiences ladies?
jlynn37 comments:
I am a man and I have the same attitude about women. I love women and enjoy spending time with them when I have the opportunity to do so which isn't very often.
Spring is here!! I don't care what the calendar says. The lizards have been out, sunning themselves, the bees are flying about, and I just had to turn on the a/c.
jlynn37 comments:
I am in north central Texas and it isn't quite here yet but it is fast approaching. Thank goodness.
Am I an apostate if I never was truly religious? I just love words and I'm curious about which ones relate to me. this word happens to be fairly new to me.
jlynn37 comments:
Although you say you were never "truly" religious, if you were a member of, participated in, attended religious activities, I would say that your are an apostate. If you were never involved with religion, a church or religious activities in any way, I would say you are NOT an apostate. Just my opinion of course.
There are people in this country who actually believe that school shootings are happening, because we don't allow school sponsored prayer. Even though there have been church shootings where the purpose of the facility is prayer. There are also countries like Canada, France Japan and I'm sure many more that don't allow state sponsored prayer in classrooms, but they don't seem to have shootings weekly like we do. Now I wonder why that is.
jlynn37 comments:
Religious people have their own way of looking at the world around them and how reality really works.
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