I’m flattered by messages and think they are nice, but I have to just say this... I am not interested in dating anyone. I haven’t been responding to messages for fear that people think I’m answering with the same intentions. I’m on this site for good discussion and a relatable community of like minded individuals.
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I've both sent and received messages to and from people , without any intention of dating. Is it possible some of these might be an attempt to simply discuss a topic ? Wouldn't that be part of getting to know "like minded individuals" ? As for any looking for more - a simple " thanks but no thanks" suffices.
evergreen
Level 8
June 16, 2018
0
Isn't a message an attempt to start a conversation?
FrayedBear
Level 9
June 16, 2018
2
I think if someone actually bothered to send me any kind of message i would respond out of a sense of good manners. My profile reads 'here for community' But if anyone (and I mean anyone) messaged me with sincere or frivolous intent of any other kind I would respond because I am a 'never say never' kind of guy, and it takes barely a seconds to say 'thanks but no thanks.'
StJohn
Level 6
June 16, 2018
2
Your profile says you want just want conversation. Why people forget that is beyond me and hope you have fun with that. Hope to see interesting post myself
JaymeDanielle
Level 5
June 16, 2018
1
Messages are conversation attempts and for some people it is a major risk that they take sending a message. Think what is like not to get a reply?
I remember I sent you a message once saying " I want to fall in love with you". You asked me "why?"
It's true I like your few posts. Your emotions/sensitivity in those posts. And that's how I thought I start liking you.
But it's okay to get rejected.
IAS1
Level 5
June 16, 2018
2
Your use of the word "rejected" suggests you really don't get it.
I am awful at many, many things, but there may not be anything in the world that I am worse at than human interaction. Even I know that is not the way to start a conversation with a woman.
While I get that may be the case it does suck for the message sender to just be left in the unknown. A non-replied message has one wondering many things apart from what you're looking for, most commonly the main thought is that "guess I'm not even worth your time."
It wouldn't hurt to at least send a reply restating your intentions of using this site, as well as a thoughtful reply.
Even something as straightforward as what you've posted here. "...I’m on this site for good discussion and a relatable community of like minded individuals." followed by whatever fits the message will suffice.
Those that get all in a huff after that is entirely their fault, and at least you took the time to reply after all. The likelihood of someone that has messaged you to see this post is at best 50/50 honestly. By the time they log on a couple of days from now this discussion will be buried under many others.
Just my two cents anyways.
BeardedWonder
Level 6
June 15, 2018
3
@JustKip there are times when messages are sent before a profile has been written. People are not mindreaders.
@JustKip I'm gonna be that guy again, and say.....
Her profile only mentions she's here for friends, so is it so beyond the frame of mind to...oh I dunno... private message a potential new friend? Even if it's to establish a 'pen pal' relationship of sorts.
I doubt every message she's gotten are from troves of horny men too eager to read.
Her profile isn't even active anymore, so how are people that have sent a PM supposed to know how she even feels about them all in all?
I do agree that it is rude since she mentioned that "...I'm only here for friends..." and if she has 100 "hey, hotness what's up?" messages, then sure don't reply to those ones. I was more mentioning the ones she's 'flattered' about.
Unless I've missed something, and expressing being flattered by a correspondence is to do so with complete silence, and de-activation of ones profile.
Only respond when you are comfortable. It is not required.
Switchcraft
Level 7
June 15, 2018
0
Hi, Bverret,
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birdingnut
Level 8
June 15, 2018
1
@maturin1919 No, I'm only supposed to approve comments, but if I see a profile that is missing photos and profile information it makes me uneasy and I might even block them. Other women have also expressed feeling uncomfortable when someone hides their background. For all I know they are married, 300 lbs, unemployed, and living with their mothers.
@maturin1919 Yup. Every time I see a profile without a photo or information. Most of the people are new, haven't read the FAQ, and don't know how the website works. They should pin something like what I say at the top of the discussion group. Most men don't even read profiles..just start hitting on the woman with the prettiest photo, but women care about the background of men they are considering dating. Their lives could depend upon it.
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