I'm going to message you.

lol!

Agreed, it's choice. You can chose to finish HS and stop, but that will limit that person's choices, not the bread winner. Don't limit yourself or others.

Women lose 40% of their income upon divorce. For men it is half that. Women especially need to be cognizant having earning potential that they can be satisfied with.

Below is a good episode on the class side that can happen after divorce. From the podcast Death Sex and Money.
It’s also worth noting that a big reason for the increase is divorce rate is due to women’s increased income. They are no longer financially beholden to a bad marriage.

[wnycstudios.org]

I am very familiar with the term navy wife. More familiar with Marine wife since I live near a large marine base. But those who stay at home are now looked down upon because of the girls, not women, but girls and I say girls because they purposely seek out a military man solely for his benefits and to live off of him so she does not have to do anything and will usually cheat on him with a "Jodie", aka a guy she fucks on the side when is deployed or out in the field. They are now called one of three things, Dependasaurus (the cranky angry, fun spoiling controller freak, usually a mother of a demon spawn), Dependapotomous (one who gained a lot of weight after and they usually suckered the guy in with a kid so he can't leave) or just simply Dependa. Because the depend on the military guy. Which makes me feel like crap for wishing to one day be a house wife since so many people belittle you if you are a stay at home wife.

@AccursedHalo You sure look like a beautiful young woman that has figured out what is going on around you. And everything you said is true and I didn't wanted to bring it up. Marine is a tough life and a lot of broken people move in that direction. My son wanted to join the Marines but his mother wouldn't have it. I convinced him that he was too smart and too tall to be a marine... your enemy will be telling you I can see your elbows behind the tree and you are the tall tree. He ended up in the USAF. Still he volunteered to Afghanistan physical security despite him being a Network Security geek. So now he is a dangerous geek. But I will bring the other side of the coin and pardon me for thinking you have oriental blood in you but the Navy used to be big in the Philippines... sailors will marry the locals and have children with them and being served by them as a king until they retire and return to the CONUS and then divorce them. Often they were left with nothing. Navy passed a law that if you are married 10 years during the service stint, you will get half of the pension. So my ex wife (from P.R.) gets half of my pension and I have no beef with it. She earned it. I believe that law was passed to protect the wife that stick around for that long. Being on service 20 years I had seen it all from prostitution rink by wives on Guantanamo Bay to Swing clubs on a Naval Security Group. You can go into the military a sane, productive individual and the service will break you into a broken soul for what you see and have to endure. Is not for everyone and you know the girls around the base want a piece of that just to get out of town and see other parts of the world. I joined the Navy because I wanted to see the world. Been stationed in Puerto Rico, Spain, Crete and Germany besides the CONUS. Have an education in World and Life that no book can offer me. Some of those girls to be able to be stationed with their husband in Hawaii or Europe is like a dream, they heard about. I don't see nothing wrong with a stay at home wife but I wanted my wife to be more than that. Because I saw and knew of her potential to be anything she set her eyes on doing. Did not wanted her one day age 60 look around and start crying because she could had been more. After my first 4 years we discussed, her joining and me being the stay home guy. I didn't wanted it for me or for her. I believe in the potential of humans and the freedom to spread your wings. And Yes there will always be a Crazy Element hard to understand and comprehend around a Marine Base. I commend you for what you expressed about the young wives on base. I remember one country western listening overweight young seaman working for me that tapped into that navy wife circuit. When you have a deployed sailor wife coming to your boat to argue about him messing with somebody else, it is Crazy. Thank You for bring it up what is going on that will be out of the minds of civilians.

@GipsyOfNewSpain Lol, not oriental. I am Hispanic. But completely agree.

@AccursedHalo Awesome so watch out those marines will find you Exotic. I had noticed via my son's friends in Vegas that people from San Salvador, Peru, Chile look very oriental, credit to they native heritage for sure. And I will tell you, you are wise beyond your years... never stop observing what goes around you.

Would rather not work and be a housewife too. If I am working the guy better be sharing in on the house hold chores!