I just looked at my phone after spending a crazy anxiety filled day out doing errands, then cleaning, then cooking dinner, to find a few missed calls and a message from my coworker.
Night shift called in sick and they wanted to know if I'd cover.
After the crazy overtime thing, and sacrificing every day off for two weeks, this was my only day off to do human things like chores. I didn't even feel up to all the stuff I did today because I'm so fried from the last two weeks of crazy OT.
So I did it.
I told them no.
Boy I feel guilty AF but I simply need to stop overworking myself.
But I refuse to let the guilt eat at me. My health comes first, right? So I'm going to finish my night the way I intended by laying in bed and binging tv and not think about how my health has caused me to let people down yet again
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If you produce profits for your employer, you owe them nothing. They exist to make money - not benefit the human race.
Ellatynemouth
Level 8
June 23, 2018
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Don't feel guilty. You are a human being - not a slave.
Ellatynemouth
Level 8
June 23, 2018
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Good on you it sounds like you deserve some r&r!
JSimon1984
Level 3
June 23, 2018
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As women we are socialized to put everyone else’s needs above our own, to sacrifice ourselves for others. It is critically important for us to learn to say no when we need to. Good for you. No guilt!
A2Jennifer
Level 8
June 23, 2018
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You aren't letting anyone down.
It's really unreasonable to ask you to work that much.
I know I've done that. And if you ever leave they'll probably have to replace you with two people.
RavenCT
Level 9
June 23, 2018
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I just feel bad because the coworker that has to cover works two full time jobs. I hate putting that on her, but in relation to health it's harder on me than on her. I just hate to do that to her. I value my coworkers so much and I want to help them out as much as possible
@LadyAlyxandrea As someone who is disabled I look back and think "That guilt thing - that wasn't good for me.". I've worked two jobs where if someone called in sick I'd get stuck working 16 hours.
Even in my 20's that was really unhealthy.
I understand wanting to help the team - but perhaps they need someone who is part time to cover some of these shifts?
@RavenCT we have a few PRN people but unfortunately they're never available during emergency notice, only if we have far out planned lapse in coverage. I wonder what they'll do when I inevitably have to retire to part time and go on disability. It has taken us over a year to even get the staff we have, and most but two have been here for 3+years. It's just hard to fill this position (but apparently that doesn't warrent a raise to those of us who have stuck with it for years)
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