You know, it's not so much that I miss Cathy, although I do miss here terribly, it's that the house is empty without her. Turning on the tv helps a little bit, but not very much. I'm an only child, and don't have any kids of my own. I do have one stepdaughter in Utah, but I'm really not that close to her. I do have some friends, but almost all of them are married. I keep fairly busy during the day, but at night, I'm alone. And I have the feeling that I'm going to be alone for a while, based on the success I've had with a couple of singles groups. I get all kinds of responses from women who are hundreds, if not thousands, of miles away. But from ones who are local, nothing. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm lonesome. I don't like it, and I'm not sure if there's anything I can do about it.
I put this under General & Hellos, but that's probably not quite the right topic, but there isn't one for lonely.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I'm sorry for your loss. I agree with the comment about meet up groups. There is likely a local senior center that has activities and day trips too. You are actually in good shape because at your age there are many more women than men. I had an older friend who got quite popular after his wife died.
Stephanie99
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July 4, 2018
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I am sorry for your loss. It is a huge adjustment to make. I wish I could help. (I lost my husband, Bob, almost ten years ago.) I still miss him, but I don't hurt anymore. I am filled with the happy memories. I so understand about nights being difficult. For me, it helps having a dog who greets me every time I open the front door. It breaks the silence and she makes me smile. For me, it is important to get out of the house one or two nights a week, I go square dancing. Even though I walk into the room alone, I am with fun people doing an interesting and lively activity. On the few times that I feel really lonely, I stay up all night...playing computer games or whatever. Then I sleep in until noon. Thankfully, that doesn't happen very much anymore. Here in California I can go to meetup.com. There I can find people who are interested in various activities, from board games to hiking. It's not exactly a dating site, but just a chance to do things with people of similar interests.
I hope you are feeling better today. If you ever want to write/text me, I will always answer. Take care - Devrais
DevraisA1
Level 7
July 4, 2018
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What are your interests? My advice would be to join a local group doing some type of activity that you enjoy, something that both men and women would belong to. You could go and volunteer with some local charity. Don’t initially approach doing these things with a view to meeting a new partner, but by just joining in new things you can make new friends of both gender. This will help with the loneliness and you will have a better chance of meeting someone with whom you could form a close relationship.
Marionville
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July 4, 2018
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There is a group for singles , though .
Cast1es
Level 9
July 4, 2018
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I AM single. My wife died April 26 of this year.
@Spudgun [agnostic.com] Singles Group.
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