13 1

Is it better to live in a sexless relationship because you still love each other, live alone or seek out a sexual partner?

Dawgismygawd 6 July 20

Post a comment Reply Add Photo

Enjoy being online again!

Welcome to the community of good people who base their values on evidence and appreciate civil discourse - the social network you will enjoy.

Create your free account


Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.


I live in a sexless relationship for several reasons. One - I'm on Venlaflaxine for anxiety, panics etc. It has the opposite effect of Viagra.
Two - I just don't fancy my wife any more.
It doesn't stop me wanting sex and I certainly think about it if I see a pretty lady but I just don't think that I have the ability any more.

Jon791 Level 4 July 20, 2018

Sex is kind of a subset of love, isn't it? Isn't to love a general verb for relationship-consistent activity that would be consistent with the emotion of love?


Live alone.


So many other factors involved. If I was in love I'd not philander say in the case of medical condition, and if I did would be very careful not to hurt my loved one and certainly wouldn't allow myself to develop feelings for my "outlet".
However, if the situation is where the scales tipped too far into the negative the clock begins to tick and circumstances would leave me vulnerable to outside influence.
Another lifetime ago I would not reserve monogamy for men who would not do what was necessary to keep me, with the exception of one bf & my late dh I kept seeing other people.
/was loyal to a fault w/dh , it was as if other men ceased to exist

Qualia Level 8 July 20, 2018

If you have to ask... It is time you move on.


Personally sex is not the most important thing we spend way more time in a relationship doing dishes than boinking ea other so if we were still in love sexless all the way

weeman Level 7 July 20, 2018

The answer all depends on where sex falls on your hierarchy of values.

What if you don't hold subjective values?


This can only be answered on a case by case basis.


This depends on your sexual needs.


No way to answer that. Everyone is different.
What works for one, will not work for all.


Depends on a lot of factors but mostly why the relationship is sexless: is it a medical condition, are the partners no longer physically attracted to each other, or is one interested in someone else instead? There is no blanket answer to this question.

Agreed. The last 10 years of my marriage were basically sexless (3-4 times total). I probably could have coped but there wasn't any touching, no hugs or anything. He was just completely indifferent to me. I couldn't live like that any longer and we divorced last year, in hindsight I wish I would have left 5 years ago.

@Marcie1974 I wish that for you too. Sad.


That is as subjective an issue as it can be. Everyone in that situation needs to answer it for themselves, and everyone will have a different calculus.

zeuser Level 8 July 20, 2018

This is a hard question! I am not in that situation, nor have I ever been there! But, love is more life supporting than i could live in a sexless relationship! I am in control of my sensual does not control me! But, never would I speak for another...

so eloquently said

Write Comment
You can include a link to this post in your posts and comments by including the text q:135276
Agnostic does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any content. Read full disclaimer.