Do you give money to beggars? Someone asked me to buy them gas last night. I felt bad for not helping but I’m always dubious about these things. I had my daughter (6yrs old) with me and as the lady left she said ‘I hope she never gets stranded’. Just thought that was rude.
I do, but in that case I probably wouldn't have done - in my experience, beggars who try to guilt-trip you like that are fakers.
Incidentally, I give at least twice as much to beggars I believe are genuine if they're female. Life on the streets is dangerous and hard, but a hell of a lot more so if you're a woman.
It was rude. The comment is there to help "extort" money from you.
I have given money in the past and as I was in Kenya. These days I don't do it a lot for many reasons. Just the other day a man approached me outside my work and wanted money because he had ran out of gas. I told him I had nothing to give coz I'm on social security and work this 3 hour a day job to help me get by. What I wanted to say was "dammit, can't you read a frigging gas gauge?"
I’m a Social Worker working with the homeless. I’ve seen many panhandlers who make as much as me. I had a vet with tax free income of 4000 a month staying in shelters so he can afford drugs. Unfortunately, helping is often enabling unhealthy choices. I recommend giving directly to shelters/food pantries and other organizations and referring those in need to these places.