Question about dating after divorce. I had a great date last Saturday and we're planning on meeting again this weekend. He indicated he would drive down to me (he's 2 hours north). There's a music festival in town that I thought about seeing if he wanted to go to. Then I started feeling weird because my ex will most likely be there and even if he isn't, I know a lot of our mutual friends will be. Part of me feels weird bringing a date, knowing there will most likely be hand holding. BUT, I've been divorced for about a year and dang it I should be able to bring a date somewhere.
I live in a city of about 55,000 people and I had always thought that was fairly decent sized...until I got divorced.
Anyways....I would appreciate thoughts, advice, insight, and/or experiences.
You've got to live your life doll (((( hugs)))
It may be just that you're getting your feet wet & need to do something less "out there", not for others but for you?
I get why you might be reticent being a "fretter".
Other than that bleep! everyone else, have fun. You've every right!
Why are you worrying about what anyone "might" think?
You are divorced. You are allowed to live your life in ANY manner you see fit.
Be bold. Hold hands if you want to.
NO ONE has any right to say anything about anything you are doing, or who you're seeing socially.
So what if you see anyone you know, or your ex? It's going to happen sometime.
Go and have a great time.
Go! Enjoy! Be free and happy, you have earned it and deserve it! Those that talk will do so about anyone, anything, any time. It doesn't matter if it is tomorrow, next month or next year. Be wicked, give them a reason to talk, there is no shame in your game. ?
I remember feeling like that when I first got divorced, it takes a while to get over but go and have fun! You will feel free once you see your ex out there too, don't feel weird, it's ok! Sounds like you went through a horrible marriage and divorce! It's understandable, it's ok
I have been separated from my ex since December 2016 - so I have passed the 18 month mark. I have tentatively (and so far unsuccessfully) tried a couple of dates recently. So, I know where you are coming from. In my view, yes after a year you should be to take a date somewhere that has people who know you. It sounds like your social orbit already know you're divorced. A date after a year is nothing to be embarrassed about it - in fact, it should be celebrated. You go, girl!
Accept that some of your former mutual friends will judge and/or ostracize you to some extent, or take sides on behalf of your ex, if they haven't already. It goes with the territory.
I always admired my current wife for ignoring raised eyebrows when she began dating me mere weeks after her husband's death (the marriage had been going south anyway). People don't have a right to judge such things, as they don't have all the information and it's none of their business anyway.
Well you have 2 lives so this is just a try-out. Also you won't die for millions of years so why not waste a little more time worrying about what other people think. <-- Sarcasm
Seriously, just go and have fun. If you run into someone or an uncomfortable situation, lean into it and remind yourself that you're not there trying to make sure they enjoy their life, you're doing your best to enjoy yours. Good luck!
Go , enjoy yourselves . If someone you know spots you there , introduce them to him . There is nothing here for you to be ashamed of . If they hang out with your husband they already know about your divorce . If not , there's no reason they can't find out now .