If you and your girlfriend/boyfriend didn't live together, would you expect at LEAST a text message everyday ? Edit.
Maybe "expect" wasn't the word I wanted. And people seem to have to have a time table established. ....
So "..you've been dating for over a year....wouldn't it seem fitting to text/exchange some affection on those days you can't see each other..?"...
Yes I would. I'm very insecure.
I rarely text. I like to actually like to hear the other persons voice.
When I was dating, I liked getting a text message. Some people see that as overbearing, but honestly, it just let me know there was no emergency going on like a car accident. Staying in touch is so easy nowadays between FaceBook, SnapChat, InstaGram, text message, etc. that it really doesn't make sense to struggle sending a small message, unless you're taking a trip away from the internet altogether, in which case your partner will be expecting that.
My wife and I have been together 10 years now and we're both near-100% telecommutes. So we are home together every day. Still, if I go on a business trip we either talk every day or let each other know that we won't be able to. I don't feel burdened by that. I call it "pinging". It's a social behavior. It seems that if you're supposedly in love and care that you'd want to at least touch base and make sure all is well and that the other person is front and center in your thinking.
Depends on how much I like them
hopefully we like someone we call boyfriend or girlfriend? maybe even like them lots n lots n lots
Not necessarily.
If there isn't "enough" communication occurring to satisfy one party's expectations, a conversation needs to happen.
No one can realistically expect anyone else to live up to their expectations if they don't even know what they are.
Further, the other person is under no obligation to live up to your expectations, even if they do know what they are.
Effective communication and clarity makes relationships soooo much better
I don't feel like it's an insecurity thing at all. You don't think a "Good morning sweet pea... Good night... Or ..A thinking of you picture or text..." is a sign of a healthy relationship?
That’s why I said it differs. Yeah, those texts are always great! But if you expect it, then it doesn’t mean anything. Unless you’re looking for subservience.
People have busy days. My own grandmother may have to wait to get a text. It doesn’t mean the end of the world. It’s about trust
No. Her thoughts and Prayers will be enough comfort.
Yes, communication is important in a relationship.
no I would expect a great phone call are you with the person or not
I would like to talk everyday, of course. There is very important connection for me and I would like to spend more time with my lover in different ways.
I think both people must be honest since the beginning and lay out expectations. Do I expect a text from you everyday? Or are we going to have a more lay off approach to this and communicate whenever we can without any expectations?
Personally, I like to plan long term with a nuanced open mind. So I would set no expectations in a short term relationship and I would set expectations in a long term relationship.
Great question.
It we lived together then yes, It would be nice and considerate. No if we are not. The relationship is just buildng and everything is not in place to have such expectations. Texting is sort of a double sword. Its nice to know they care but expectations are controlling.
Absolutely not. I'm not looking to be joined at the hip with anyone and being comfortable with personal, autonomous space is important for wellbeing. There are days when I have no contact with any of my devices, and I would hope the same for my partner. Time apart is what makes time together so special.