This is the reverse image of @Crimson67 's post.
When dating, what was the most shallow reason someone gave to stop dating you?
We'll laugh with you, not at you and we'll call him/her/it appropriate names.
I was too intelligent. Too comfortable on my own, have a jekyll and hide personality, she was too afraid of losing me etc etc
Basically she made every excuse in the book not to be together despite being her "soul mate" as she said. Was friends for awhile afterwards because i struggled to sneak away without upsetting her, I was too soft. What a weirdo, right? she didn't know what she wanted.
One relationship ended on the first date when he found out that I don't have pierced ears. Another ended after the guy asked me to put something in my purse and I pointed out that I wasn't carrying a purse. Both guys gave me the "What kind of woman are you??!!" farewell speech.
Decades later, not much has changed. My daughter's grandfather (by marriage) thinks we're not proper women because we don't have pierced ears and never carry Queen E. style purses. Our hearts are not broken.
I was told once, in my youth, I was way too intelligent and good looking by a brief liaison. Could never figure that one out, I think she was blind to be honest. She turned out to be a swamp trollop in any case and made it out as the town bike lol.
It's never happened to me. All of my relationships that ended were because one of us moved out of state, or we just agreed that we were better as friends that in a romantic relationship. I am still friends with every one I've had a relationship with.
After four dates with a French woman. I wanted to get more physically closer to my date, as she was not responding to any of my respectful moves.
I asked her, is there anything about me that is a deal breaker. She said yes, on your online profile, it said you like to hug and kiss.
That was enough of a deal breaker for me.
I once was with somebody for several years who I was madly in love with. Then we broke up and were apart for five years (during which time we were both in other relationships).
He subsequently went to work as a contractor in the middle east.
When he returned for a visit, we were both single and met up to catch up. Our easy connection was as strong as ever. We ended up having sex again.
Several days later he called to say he couldn't see me anymore because it just wouldn't work with his being in the middle east. I was confused and hurt. Something told me there was more to it -- as in another relationship or something that he hadn't disclosed. But, I didn't grovel. Time goes on. About five years of time.
One night, I tipsy contacted him. Not drunk, just tipsy enough to wonder what he was up to. So, we talked -- caught up on everything, and then I bravely asked him "What was the real reason you abruptly said we couldn't see each other anymore?" I'll never forget this response, which is paraphrased to the best of my recollection here. "When we had sex.....it just wasn't the same....when we were together years ago, you were so fit and muscular...and when we saw each other again....you were soft....your body was soft and it just wasn't the same."
Call me baffled, befuddled and bewildered. To myself I thought "Are you fucking kidding me?!?!?! I'm not 28 anymore!!!" (I was thin and 41 when we last saw each other.) But, I didn't say anything that I was really thinking. I was too stunned to do so. I used to really admire and respect him. His stock plummeted that day. Add to it that I didn't believe him again. I think there was somebody else, but that he didn't want to fess up to lying about his status so made up an asinine story about my body instead. I'll never know and I don't care.
We talked by text only a couple times after that. His number was deleted long ago.
Pretty shallow I think.
A Tuesday (I use that day randomly because I don't remember) she swore her endless love for me. The next evening, 'I fell out of love with you.' There is also the one that travelled 8 hours each way to be with me twice. I travelled 8 hours once to be with her, wrecked my car and was stranded in a city I didn't know, to be with her, and she decided I was a too quick rebound after a bad relationship.
I was told that I was too old to have kids and we wouldn't be able to start a family. I didn't even want kids, especially since my kids are grown and I'm a grandmother. This occurred after he played the "avoidance game." I think I'm a good person, and I think he couldn't think of anything else.