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I wonder; is it possible to learn what can cause people to fall out of love with a significant other?

NiceFarm 5 Aug 6
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Sure it is... if they're being honest with themselves and open with you.

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It's very easy to fall in love, to want all those feelings that come along with it....its not as easy to truly love someone, with all their faults, in times of weakness, after learning they may not be all you thought.

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Growth is usually the real answer. One partner grows or changes while the other stays the same. At least in my experience. The real question is: How does one go from being "In Love" with someone to not liking them? The hard answer is we force things until they are broken. It's okay to care for someone you used to be intimate with but not want to continue loving them. We imprison our selves and in doing so we limit what love really is. Loving someone can also be letting go, because being together isn't working anymore. Codependency plays a major part in that whether it be financial or emotional.

It's true.

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There are a LOT of kinds of love , but when you get to the base and look to see what each of these have in common , the lowest common denominator is , "Love is what we feel , for those who make us feel good about ourselves ." If your love makes you feel special in the way that you are , you will want to be around hem . You will want to please them . Love dies , when they no longer make you feel special - they put you at the bottom of their priority list , when your favorite movie star actor marries someone else , when they tell you nothing you do or are is good enough , when the politician you worked hard to get elected , suddenly only cares about getting rich , instead of helping those who need their help . People kill love .

People make love and people kill love.

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Too many factors which are highly individual.
One thing that's hard to account for is the other party being completely
fraudulent in their intentions. Unless you're a mind reader, or a forensic
psychologist (and a damned good one), it's really hard to spot those folks
up front.

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Good luck with that! My guess is that they were never REALLY ''in love''....more ''in lust."

Disagree entirely. Many of us have several or numerous long term relationships. How long can infatuation last? Do think it was infatuation because it ended after five months? Two years? Three? Five? Seven? These are the lengths of the relationships I have had. If the very fact of a relationship ending means you are going to call it infatuation, only after the fact, then you don't believe the predicate here at all; which is that love can end. In other words for you, it can't really be called love until you die, because at any moment, if it ends, what you have been thinking is love, must suddenly be categorized as infatuation, even after twenty or thirty years.

@LionMousePudding The topic asks an opinion....I gave it.

@LucyLoohoo I concede.

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Attraction fatigue?

JeffB Level 6 Aug 6, 2018
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Sometimes it's just time, but honestly I think it's mostly lack of effort.

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Shift in perception
Feeling rejected
Loss of trust
Loss of intimacy

Fort night… ?

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