I'm genuinely bottom/versatile, and I was in a relationship with someone else who was genuinely bottom/versatile for over 12 months. We took turns to top each other, and it worked pretty well in that regard. In fact, my kinky streak rather liked the routine where I'd do him, and then he'd flip me over and do me, even though the orgasm had just killed the mood for me. All perfectly consensual, of course.

So it really isn't as clear cut as 'top or bottom.' Oh, and both of us wore dresses.

Right now, I'm in a casual relationship with someone who's exclusively top. And I enjoy that dynamic just as much.

Being gay doesn't make someone an authority on everything to do with being gay. Lots of people form their own clichés and stereotypes, and apply them as universal truths, based solely on their own experiences. That seems to be what your son is doing here.

Yes, I can relate to the innate desire to have a penis inside me. It's been there since puberty kicked in and I became sexually aware, even if it didn't happen (properly) until many, many years later. Your naturally occurring sexuality is not a choice, but that's not what religion and society are getting at: they accept that same sex desire exists, certainly enough to demonise it and demand that it be repressed. It's your practising sexuality that they want to dictate: who you fuck (or get fucked by.) And that is a choice.

You are so very mature in your thinking. I was raised Catholic....gay was queer and wrong and so many other things. I have four grandchildren and three are gay. When my lovely granddaughter came out I was surprised so I got some reading material and also referred back to when I was working on my BA in Psychology. Being gay is not a choice. So many good Christians argue that fact. I am so happy that she and my other ones can be who they are.