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Too unique to be understood or even loved.

Does anyone else feel this way? My beliefs, politics, views, preferences, etc are all so radically strewn across the spectrum. I don't think I'll ever find that special someone who shares or even accepts my views. I can't even find friends I can consider 'close' for the same reasons.

JonSevastra 3 Aug 24
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I find being unique seems to attract people not the opposite (believe me, I'm super weird). The question is more, do I want them as friends? I'm rather anti-social anyway. Unless you want to debate social issues or politics with your partners all your life, may be avoid those subjects that divide people. That tends to be what I do. There are a billion other subjects to talk about.

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Keep looking. I am very liberal and I have a very conservative friend. We get along great because we respect each other. It sounds like you have been meeting some intolerant people. Keep looking!

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Ohferpetssake......get a grip!

Seriously? If you have nothing of value to say, you could just keep it moving.

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A great place to start would be a "laundry list" of your likes/dislikes, politics, hobbies, career, goals, hopes, ambitions, etc. to expand your BIO on your profile.

It's hard to find someone with whom you truly "click" when you don't offer much in the way of specifics as to who you are and what you seek.

I will certainly update it soon. I just joined this site yesterday and am still learning my way around. 🙂

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Seems everyone’s looking for someone whose figured life out. What they don’t get is the work that went/ goes into it 🙂

Varn Level 8 Aug 25, 2018

I'm not so unreasonable think i'll find anyone who's "figured life out". i sure haven't. not sure i ever will. but there are some fundamental thought processes that display who someone truly is. theists in any format just seem like a lost cause when it comes truly contributing my life as a friend or partner. i'm not saying theists are not good people or are not valuable humans, just in reference me finding truly valuable connections.

@JonSevastra I can get wound up in a positive way that seems to attract others. What I’ve noticed (and attempted to briefly describe above) is people gravitate toward those who appear to have life by the tail. When I’m more observant and less engaged, it’s interesting to watch ‘the flow’ toward someone else..

Like you, I assume the person I’m looking for will be as unusual or rare as ‘us.’ I’d settled for less in life, and it cost me dearly. The more ..personality you acquire, the more difficult to find a high percentage match, but the more interests one has, the more connections there are to make.

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Don’t let your differences keep you from being friends. Diverse friends are the best. They keep you thinking

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Unique people are interesting to me. I like to learn about the differences in people. It doesn't mean I will agree with them or they with me, but being open to different ideas is how we grow intellectually.

i completely agree with you on this. but these are not the people i invite the inner sanctum of my life. those are the people i can never seem find.

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You live in a populous part of the country and may be able to find a suitable life partner or friend.

I live in an a theistically blackened middle of nowhere (almost all theists). As I value truth based on facts over faith based (belief without evidence) assertions in the supernatural and do not tolerate superstitious people as potential partners, I have long ago accepted a probable life living alone.

Hope you find a compatible partner or friend. You are not alone.

i think i'm just having a hard time reconciling that my values and beliefs strongly point to me living a life alone.

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Hi, Jon, and welcome to the website!

I dunno..maybe you'll meet people here who understand you.

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