A crush, yes. Secret, probably not.

Yup. I'm guilty too. I'm just not sure how to go about making contact. I'm still relatively new here so i'm trying to get the hang of things.

I don't think observing that a particular person would definitely be (or not be) a candidate for life partner in some hypothetical situation would constitute a "crush". That would involve actively fantasizing about the person and feeding that fantasy with constant attention to the person's posts and profile.

I vacillate between wanting to be here for community and for a potential love interest. I am still working on healing from a bad break-up that involved many layers of betrayal. It may take a while, but I'm pretty sure that it is a bad idea to immerse myself into anything beyond friendships until I can drop some of this burdensome baggage. That being said, I find myself attracted to men on this site rather frequently. I like men, dang it! Men can be all kinds of fun! But until I am more confident about my own ability to be strong and supportive for someone again, I will keep my secret crushes secret.

Yep.

I'm a sapiosexual. I'm waiting for someone to capture my mind. My body will follow. Granted, there are some attractive people here but if they are all looks & no substance, its like getting an empty box for Xmas. Its pretty to look at but nothing inside.