I'm sorry for you loss.

But I have found the concept of eternity singing praises to a cruel deity horrifying from the time I was a small child.

I’ve always wished that I could believe in God... not just a thought that it’s a possibility (which I’ve never even had), but a true and deep belief. Even if I did I still probably would not be interested in organized religion, but what it could provide personally I think would be wonderfully rewarding.

Although sometimes I very much fear coming tothe end and existing no more, I still value very much having the truth rather than illusions. To me, that feels right and very important to have that.

No, but you can always celebrate their lives....
That's how things carry on ...

Yes at times I wish I could let go and let god as the saying goes. I also miss the ability to go to church and meet people I would never see in my regular life, I miss the community. But having said all that I do not miss being brain dead and simple minded about the reality of life and the simple fact that god does not exist.

sorry for your loss.
Grieving is natural and a necessity to the human experience. Trying to blunt it by thinking an imaginary friend will cuddle them until you get there or ignoring the pain of loss by other means is selfish. We are emotional beings. We must experience bereavement to make us humble to a basic fact that life is fatal. Any concept of eternal life or afterlife is for the weak and lazy minded. Religion makes thinking irrelevant. In mourning, we discover how the ones we loss have influenced or shaped our life and the life of others. These lessons makes us appreciate their time amongst the living. They live in you, your thoughts and your experience. Honour them by recognizing their contribution to the living.

I'm very sorry for your loss. We find comfort where we can. I wish I knew what happens but I didn't know the first time so I don't expect to know now. The first time being when I was born. There is so much mystery in life, I don't presume to be sure of anything.

First---let me extend sympathy and hugs for your loss. WHAT A SHOCK! Secondly, I've had the same idea...it's like a lovely, comfy fairy tale makes us feel safe and hopeful. So we make up ''heaven'' and it's filled with everyone we've ever loved, etc.

Just another example of the human capacity for self-delusion.

How're you handling all the religious clap-trap?

Been there prefer reality!

I can understand the idea of believing if just for a moment to make the time you spend with them easier. But why would anyone want to change who they are. Good kuck.

No never. I am so sorry for your loss.

No. I don't see the appeal in self-delusion.

No. I actually feel even more sad because the religious people are grieving, but think they'll see the deceased again in an afterlife.

I'm cherishing my memories of the departed because that is the only true way the dead can live on. In our hearts and minds.

Never. I would have to be a lot dumber to do so.

You can't be dishonest with yourself, find a way to show compassion while keeping you to yourself.

My sympathy to you. My thoughts about the matter of what is after death... are mine and mine alone.

No

Nope why would you want to delude yourself

Sorry to hear that. Well, everyone is different. That's their way to cope with it. You have your own that works for you. Simple as that.