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I am thinking about starting over. Going to a new place, getting a new job, meeting new people, making new friends. I want to go to a cool place. I am looking for happiness.
Have you ever picked up and started over someplace else? What was it like? Was it difficult? What prompted you to do it?

Erick67 6 Sep 12
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I did, nearly 11 years ago. Was a bold but good choice for me when my marriage ended. I moved somewhere that I was familiar with and had some historical ties to, which made the move pretty seamless. I went 5000 miles away from where I lived the first 50 years of my life and had the blessing of my grown children, knowing I'd visit them and they'd visit me. Works for me!

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No strings/attachments to hold you where you are? Are you in a career/line of work that you can take with you? Not weighed down by a mortgage, etc.? Those are things I woujld consider, if it were me. Just saying...

But, we're all different. If things have gotten stale where you are, and there is no really good reason to stay there, go for it. You've got this one life, make the best of it.

Pretty stale things are. Recently divorced. Kids are all grown up now. I can quit my job and get a similar one pretty much anywhere. No debt. She can keep the house and the mortgage!
I think I am going to do this.

@Erick67 good for you. I'm envious. You won't regret it.

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Don't wait jump in with both feet. I wish I had done it years ago now I just can't see it being a reality for me and I feel like I've missed something along the way.

OK. I am going to do it.

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I met the love of my life, Dan, here on Agnostic.com. Started talking in May, met in june, decided to move to NY state to be with him in July. Found happiness fourthfold.

If only I could be that lucky!

Depends on your boundaries and your potential partner. Always been a gypsy, spontaneous and free spirit. My profile reflected that when I joined last November. I was willing to relocate.

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Several times while in the military, although the job only changed once, and since then twice more. Both times since long term relationships ended, and I realized that they were the only reason I was there.

It always sucks to start over, but it was usually worth doing.

JimG Level 8 Sep 12, 2018

Interesting. I need to try this. It had been a long time since I have been on my own and in a new place.

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I left my home state of CT and moved to CA after a divorce. It was difficult financially but a great experience. I stayed there 15 years and thrived. I still keep contact with friends but now live back East again to be near family. You won't necessarily find happiness but you can have fun trying.

And try I will.

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Come to New Orleans. We really have two seasons, hot and a hella lot hotter. But, there is so much culture you can make it what you want it to be for you. There is always something to do and you being you is celebrated here. The bad, high rents, high crime, potholes the size of calderas, streets flood in a hard rain. Don't expect for things to happen on your time, it is the Big Easy after all.
You will either Love it and be sucked into the black hole of Nola or you will hate it fast. So come visit first and get out of the French Quarter when you do.

The Big Easy sounds enticing.

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Happiness in inside you, your outlook, response to stress, general attitude. Changing your exterior citcumstances might distract you for awhile, in fact most certainly will, but if you are unhaapy inside, negative, pessimistic, those things will resurface pretty quickly.
The good news is, it is Much cheaper to work on your world view than move!

You make a good point.

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Just be very careful you don't take your troubles with you . Just because the scenery changes , doesn't mean you'll change .

I want to leave my troubles behind.

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yes. i picked up and went to japan, barely knowing the language. unemployment and despair prompted me to do it, along with an invitation from friends who lived there. it was like... living anywhere, but the details were different! i gained a lot of confidence there, i must say.

good luck!

g

Thanks!

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