I've tried most of the dating sites,some free,other a monthly membership,rife with scammers.I'm almost in the same situation; Lost wife of 27 years to cancer on Sept.13th 2017,the wound is still open,slowly healing,but under a thin scab. So just a word of warning about the online dating sites,beware,do not get emotionally envolved without several face to face meetings.

Think of it as a job,selling yourself,if you do spark interest in a Woman short of wearing a black sweatshirt with the words "SINGLE" on it, in white letters,I dunno how you would attract,volunteer somewhere,I've read love will find us when we least expect it,but ya gotta get out in public somehow.

Folks are really ripping you a new arsehole over your post... I’d say it’s not to much to ask, put in the effort and don’t be attached to a particular outcome... in other words stay open to the possibility while learning to be the best you you can be. You need to be ok regardless

The question presupposes that you're entitled to a girlfriend and that life will simply bestow it upon you (perhaps in exchange for some arbitrary, yet so far ineffective, level of effort invested; perhaps in exchange for nothing at all).

The universe doesn't give a fig if you have a life partner or not. If you want one you have to become the sort of person who would attract the sort of life partner you want. Assuming of course that you've actually put some thought into that beyond "likes me instantly for no reason and never argues with me or demands any sort of reciprocity beyond what I'm already willing and capable of".

No one's love live is easy and it's always at least intermittently confusing. If you're love life hasn't worked out, then figure out why and what changes are required. Get good professional advice if need be. You have as much of a shot as any of the rest of us. Probably better than many.

Free advice: Don't lead with this sort of sentiment as your first post. You've already turned off 95% of the women here, before they even look at your (non-existent) profile.

you don't ask for people you make an effort and hope and you keep trying no effort equals no return on any aspect of life.

If your lack of ingenuity on your profile bio is any indication as to who you are, I'd unfortunately have to agree with you. Yes, it is.

Is this a rhetorical question? If it isn’t what do you expect us to say as an answer? You have to make an effort yourself.....the girls won’t come looking for you. If it was a chat-up line it was pretty crap.

The only thing stopping you is you. Go out and do things you love, meet other people who love those things, go from there.

Get out of your way ,and you will eventually meet someone.

No and you need to present yourself as a caring person to start with.