I agree. I experienced all sorts of awful things that boys tried to do to me because they thought I was drunk after pushing alcohol on me (I dumped it in the nearest sink or plant). A close friend of mine went to a party, got drunk, passed out in the backyard and was trained. My other friends found her out there and couldn’t stop the boys but were afraid to call the police. She was never the same.

Trauma can sear the act in your brain. You may not know the exact location/time but will remember the smell of the person, their breathe on your face, sound of their voice and if you see their face, you'll remember that as well. This unfortunately has been happening for many generations and I feel it's the parents of individuals who don't teach their children that they don't have the right to another's body without their permission that are more responsible as opposed to a parent's leniency.

the parents may have been more naive than lenient, not knowing where their kids were and what they were doing. they may have had assurances that the boys were doing something useful (like studying!)

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