Not having much luck dating believers: They want me to validate their afterlife and their belief that somehow, magical things can happen for them. Even if I keep it to myself, they prod me to show that I think they're right, or they challenge me on topics like abortion, out of self defense.
It takes months to get people to that point, and then, they don't trust me because I turned out to be "different" even though I was totally upfront about it all.
I find that believers live in their own made-up world, and they want a woman (me) to play the part of the woman in their head. To the extent that I am my own person, it's a personal betrayal.
Anyone else find this?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I have found that those who are addicted to religion are hardwired to put their "faith" over reason. I would not even bother dating a religious person. Their faith commands them to try and reach us nonbelievers and I refuse to put myself through that BS. Once someone starts questioning me about religion, even after I've told them up front that I am an atheist, I am gone.
Redheadedgammy
Level 9
Oct 7, 2018
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I used to be addicted to meth. When I was in a group I wanted everyone to be using, validated my lies. Same thing.
clarkatticus
Level 7
Oct 6, 2018
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I think that it is not only believers who want women to live in their made-up world to play the part of the woman in their head. In reality a lot of men want a women to be someone who will be there for them only, not an equal. Someone who is "the little woman", who will cook and clean for them and who will bring their slippers and never to ask for it to be reciprocated.
Jolanta
Level 9
Oct 6, 2018
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I don't go that far as I have no tolerance for the irrational theist.
I believe a positive relationship should be based on mutual respect and honesty.
To assert faith (belief without evidence) is a methodology to determine truth (things that can be demonstrated with facts) is dishonest. Faith is the foundation of the religious mind-set. As I do not respect dishonest people and value truth over superstition, I do not engage with theists on a social adventure.
Where I teach, I have observed many marriages fail. I believe it is better to live a life alone then to be in a relationship with a person not worthy of your time.
NoMagicCookie
Level 8
Oct 6, 2018
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?? I would never date someone I even suspected was religious!
Eeeew!
birdingnut
Level 8
Oct 6, 2018
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I know, but they lie about it. I'm honest up front. They minimize, like, "Well, I don't go to church..." but then eventually, they really can't get around it, and try to pull me over to their belief system. I think they don't believe me. Who knows???
@kayakwoman I screen and question any new person before interacting with them. The instant their answers aren't pleasing me, I ghost them. I block/delete/never contact them again.
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