I'm polyamorous. Some people prefer it. Some don't. Whatever makes you happiest

ive read and seen lots of documentary that sugest that we are not made to be monogam after all monogamy is only a few hundred of years old it the whole of human existence i for one was in monogamist relationship for 6 years we had are expurienses here and there but i would not mind a polygam relationship as long as everyone comunicate and honest i think as long as this is respected anything goes

Also I think this whole thread got narrow and aggressively traditionalist and judgemental REAL fast.

I have no problem with polygamy, I have no problem with monogamy. I have tried both on for size and prefer a monogamous relationship for myself. But I never understood the idea of not liking a person based on something like that. I mean, if I meet someone who is really interesting, smart, funny, all that spiffy stuff, and they happen to be into polygamy, oh well! They are still all those things, I'm just not interested in a relationship. They can still be cool people. The only time I've ever had any kind of issue with it is when I go into a relationship, having openly discussed and agreed upon what we are each willing to except, meaning I made it clear that I was looking for a monogamous relationship and they said they were too, then I find out they are sleeping around. But to me that's not so much a poly/mono thing, as it is a lying thing.

As long as it's between consenting adults, anything goes.

I think that if you can form a healthy, respectful relationship with one or more of the people, that's what is important. What I've seen from Mormon fundamentalist polygamy and group marriage is that (from my perspective) those participating in those things don't have the core principles necessary to make even a monogamous relationship work. They seem to be trying to compensate by adding more people to the relationship. The relationships with one man and several women have produced the worst abuse I've heard of firsthand and seem to be entered into by the women under threat of damnation. Theoretically, I would say that adults should be able to form polygamous relationships, if that's what they want, but the horrific things that take place in polygamous communities lead me to believe there's almost always some form of coercion in those arrangements.

Many of the same problems exist in monogamy and at times they are made worse by society's acceptance of it. So I don't believe that monogamy is the answer to any problems either. I think that if we focused on teaching real moral values in society, as in respect, setting personal boundaries, etc, we wouldn't have to discuss what type of arrangement makes the best relationships. People could figure it out for themselves.