A lot of believers think they can be the one to "rescue" you from yourself. I have met men like that. They are rampant here in the Midwest, as I'm sure you're aware.

I've actually had the shoe on the other foot. I was totally in love with a Christian. It hurt to let it go, but I knew it would never work. It is better just to stay with ones own beliefs, I think.

Iam on couple of date sites request just friends have made some good friends but don't push my beliefs on others

I'm fairly lucky on this front because I live in NYC, and for some reason, calling oneself an atheist or non-believer is just as common as liking pepperoni on pizza. But I have had a few encounters with people who are "spiritual but not religious" or "believe in something, but not sure what" and my experience is that it has to not be a big deal for things to go okay. If they're a regular church-goer, I don't even bother and I steer way clear of Catholics because I just can't with that religion. It could be easier because I have more choices here, but I'd like to think I'd do the same if I were anywhere else. I'm not an experiment to be used to see if I can be converted or investigated via romantic relationship.

Perhaps they are more or less militant about those things, and hope you are the same. No charge for asking, is there?

I get the feeling beliveres think that with agnostics theres still a chnace they will become belivers where athiests are more of a lost cause

Probably some combination between the usual denial of the religious, being horny, and thinking they can convert you.

Just to say I've been on a date, I'd go out with phyllis schafly.

I've had that experience also. I read their bio before going out with them, if it states their "love of God" or looking for a "Christian man", etc. I quickly move on. I also move on if they're conservative and/or Trump voters. I state in my bio that I'm an agnostic, and also that i'm a member of 4:20 club, Lol..

I'm an atheist, and state that on the date-sites (Metch) that have that box to check. It has greatly limited my range of dates, even though I'd be willing to date others. I might approach a "christian" on a dating site, if we have common interests and they don't lay their "love of god" on real thick. My reasoning is that some people identify themselves based on background, rather than beliefs. Just as they might self-describe as Italian, or Irish, as an ethnic background, even if they are Americans who've never been to their grandparents' country of origin and don't speak the language, they might be of Methodist (or whatever) religious background. . The "spiritual but not religious" are such a mixed bag, it's hard to know what it means. Many are borderline agnostics, and lots of my friends would self-describe as such. But some are as negative and judgmental as the worst fundamentalists.

On POOF, the box to check only says "non-religious" and that can be a pretty mixed bag, too. All this makes me grateful for this site, and hopeful that there will be more women on it. But I'm still on POOF, at present.